What are my chances of successful IVF - Worried

[alf545]

Little did I know in Sept/Oct '09 that I'd be in this situation almost 2 years later! We were delighted to find out I was pregnant - planned and conceived without a problem. We were married just over a year. I was 33. Sadly I miscarried at 7 weeks. The loss and disappointment of that was hard enough but that was only the beginning of the nightmare.... I had a d&c during which my womb was perforated and fallopian tubes damaged....There were more complications...I had to have major surgery twice after the d & c. This took place in Nov/Dec '09. In March 2010 I had a hysterosalpingrogram during which my fallopian tubes were found to be swollen and the dye spilled slowly (which would indicate pelvic scars/damage etc.) I was advised to avoid pregnancy and wait until October '10 to do a repeat HSG. There was a high risk of ectopic pregnancy. Waiting was incredibly difficult. The worry, fear, anxiety and lack of control over my own life. All I wanted was to try again ..I didn't know if I was even able to conceive again or not and I was frightened of the possibility of ectopic and more surgery after everything that had already happened... Finally October came ( a year after it all started) I had the repeat HSG and the results were good. The tubes were much improved and the dye was spilling freely. We were told we could try again and our chances were good especially during the first 3 months after the HSG. I was so relieved - so happy - The nighmare was over - or so I thought. I started using the ovulation kits & monitor straight away but Nov, Dec, Jan, Feb went by and nothing. Christmas was miserably disappointing - negative result - only one line ... In March we met a fertility specialist about IVF. I was determined to start asap but again we were told to wait and try until August of this year (I will be 35 in August) March, April, May and still nothing. 2 years of my life have been lost to infertility and I conceived without any difficulty before the miscarriage and all the horrible complications that followed. I am also now faced with the added problem in that my fsh levels are high which means my ovarian reserve (egg quality/quantity) may not be as it should be for a successful pregnancy. Levels of 16, 12 and 10 in the last 3 months. .. ..I just want to start IVF on the one hand but on the other hand I am terrified that it won't work. I am also terrified of the drugs, injections and invasive procedures given my history - but if it's my only way then so be it. It's a lonely and isolating place to be because nobody understands unless they've been through it themselves. It's very hard to stay positive and hopeful when faced with one challenge after another, living from month to month and nothing happening ... Such a disappointing start to married life when it's all going well for other people - I dread seeing or hearing about people I know having babies - It's so hard. I would love to hear from you if you are going through or have been through a similar situation ...

[alf545]

Thanks so much for the reply! I'm so happy that you got your miracle. Seven years is a long time so I'm glad it worked out for you. Hopefully I can say the same some time soon...Have you had your baby or are you pregnant now? What is FET? It's good to talk directly to someone who has been through it. I've read the facts and the books and it's not the same. Again thanks for your message - I really appreciate it & wish you the best with everything :)

[worththewait78]

Yes, try IVF!!  And don't give up hope!!  I am SO SORRY that you are having to go through this.  I have all sorts of health issues and we tried for SEVEN YEARS to get pregnant, with no success, until we did IVF.  Our first round of it failed.  But our second try - with a FET - we got pregnant!  It's a miracle!  Our RE has a 95% success rate and says that almost any woman can get pregnant, even those who are told that it's virtually impossible.  Please don't lose hope and keep trying and praying and hoping!

Lots of love to you!