what happens during EARLY miscarriage?

[ALT76]

I'm just wondering if I should be expecting full-flow af eventually or what's supposed to happen?  For those who are squeamish, please stop reading because this is definitely TMI!  

Last night I think I passed "it".  I'm glad it happened in the middle of the night when I was totally out of it and too tired of crying that I couldn't really respond much.  Basically I'd been spotting since Saturday, and yesterday afternoon it picked up a little, but still wasn't too much more than spotting, except it was all red now.  Then I bled even heavier still at night, but still nowhere NEAR what I bleed when I start my period.  Still took all night to fill a thin pad.  At 2am I woke up with horrific pain and was writhing in bed for about an hour.  At 5 am I woke up to pee and wiped and it was NOT a blood clot.  Sorry if TMI, but there was white and yellow in the middle of it and certainly blood, but I had a feeling that that was "it".  I went back to bed and have barely bled since.  

Is this normal?  I know I was on the progesterone so I'm guessing maybe it is.  Maybe I need a couple days after the progesterone drop to get my full period??  This just confirms for me that I definitely WAS pregnant.  Usually when I get af, I'll bleed lightly but consistently during the first day, and when I wake up the next day the flood gates open and I'm going through a superplus sized tampon AND a full sized pad every hour or two.  I get it all in one shot.  I bleed heavy like that for a day, then medium the next day and then I'm just about done.  So it was very surprising to find I'm not bleeding much at all today after passing that thing.  Is af still on the way?  I guess I foolishly thought that the bleeding was the start of af, but I guess miscarriage and af are different.

[mysty2001]

i am sorry
i had one m/c and don;t remember antthing but blood
another the pain was so intense and blood was pouring out

[magda_s]

I hear you... I felt the very same way when I was told my Beta HCG numbers had dropped and I started spotting.  every time I went to the bathroom I felt like this was completely surreal because in one go... you haven't gotten over the excitement of thinking everything's going to be okay when you have to deal with accepting it won't be and then your brain hooks into the idea that any day now you're going to flush your baby down the loo.
You're in a truly horrible place right now and I sincerely hope you can move on soon.  I know that's probably not really what you want to hear.  The whole thing is so upsetting.  But know that you it will get better.

[Anya1984]

I feel your pain, I just lost my baby too...I m scheduled to have a d&c done later this week or next week....you know, docs say that even if you think you miscarred on your own, you should go for a u/c so they can see if there is still anything left...and if there is, then d&c is your option..you don't want any infection....
that's why I decided to do d&c...I was soo depressed for the 4 days, cried so much and now i m soo done..I just want to start over when my body is ready!

[ALT76]

I'm just so sad.  I feel like however small it was it may have been embedded in whatever I passed last night.  I just keep thinking "I flushed my baby down the toilet".  Every time I think about it I start to cry.

[magda_s]

Sorry.. I guess I misunderstood you re "it" .  Wish I could tell you more but I really have no idea.  I don't *think* that there should be any significant amount of tissue at this stage.  As for the flow, perhaps it's the progesterone that's messing everything up.  Apparently one of the side effects is that it can cause spotting and/or AF to show early.  Considering that it should normally keep AF away, maybe it's just messing you around.
I hope it's all resolved soon.

[Houston79]

I had the very same experience, except my cramping wasn't that bad.  I was on Progest. and started to spot.  The day I stopped Progest. the little gray thing came out.  Then the spotting dwindled to nothing withing five days. My RE considered that whole thing a period.  I had another period 28 days later and it lasted 36 hours exactly.   Anyway, not everyone's M/C is full flow, heavy and hard.  I was six weeks four days....
Hope it helps, and sorry this had to happen. I know your pain.

[ALT76]

well, I certainly didn't think the whole thing was a baby or anything - I'm aware that it's still microscopic at this stage, but I thought that maybe it was the tissue that it was attached to.  It just seems odd that I've basically stopped bleeding after passing it, and didn't have too heavy of bleeding before it.  That is nowhere near how my periods happen, and I was on progesterone (took the last one yesterday morning), which should be keeping af away.  

My first beta was last Friday, which was 13 dpiui, and my beta yesterday obviously would've been 16 dpiui.  Like I said, I know it's microscopic right now, but I just assumed like you said that I was gonna just get a normal period, but this whole thing has been kind of strange.  That's why I posted the question.

[magda_s]

I just wanted to say how sorry i am for you.  I saw your posts when you got the positive Beta result and I was a little scared for you then because I went through the same... sorry if I've misunderstood something along the way but I think you had a very low result didn't you?  Mine was too.  And a few days after the beta I had some spotting and the rest is history.
Again, sorry if I've missed something  and I'm sure I probably have but how many dpt or dpo are you?  If you've only recently done your beta then it can't be many and if that's the case then chances are that wasn't "it".  It would be far, far too small for you to see it.  I'm not sure what that would have been but I don't think it would have been "it".
And although my m/c was really very easy and simple (I was doing IVF and was only 18 dpt), I did have a m/c a number of years ago and that was a heavy flow and quite painful for a short time.
I wish you all the best and again, I'm so very sorry that you're going through this.