i am not gettting pregnant

[babyseeker27]

Hi, i am very new in this and I feel very very sad depressed and frustrated . Since i recall i have been irregular with my periods. Sometimes my period is normal and sometimes it is not. I've been married for 5 years, i used a birth control for around 5 months and decided not to use it since it caused me he aches. We used condoms but then we started having unprotected sex but all this time i have not gotten pregnant i knew i had a problem and sort of ignored it. We have decided to see a doctor and see what can be done. As obvious as it can be she told us we need some tests done and since i am been in denial hoping to get pregnant we have not started nothing yet. Now, on Jan. 28-31 i had some light bleeding, then it went off until Feb 18-23 with some more light bleeding. We had intercourse on Feb 26 and Feb 28. And then I am having these light cramps pain from March 1 up to today which is March 6. I have done some pregnancy test and they showed negative, i did one ovulation predictor today and the result was a light faint line on the T. I feel so alone and i don't know what to do, how to feel, unfortunately i didn't use to pay attention to my body when it came to knowing when my period started or finished or which month i was suppose to have it or how knowing when i was ovulating or when was the right time to have sex. :( Today i just want to feel i am pregnant and the sad part is that i might not.

[lora144]

i am sorry to hear about your troulbe i am actually in a similiar situation i have been tring for 2 years and i havnt had a period in 11 months i understand your frustration i know what it is like to think of nothing else lying in bed feeling your stomach thinking your might have felt somthing but it is all in your head because all test tell you neg i the one thing that bothers me the most is when someone tells me that i tring to hard and to stop thinking about it. they dont know what it is like to be a women with that mother instict and not be able to produce children and in my situation a friend of mine has a child and can barely take care of him is now pregnant and my sister is not supposed to be able to have any more children is pregnant and my other sister that has had her tubes tied is pregnant life *****

[melotis]

I am in the same postion as you. sometimes all I do is spot. When I read your story it sounded so much like mine, but then I knew i didn't write it. I am trusting God to bring me out and I hope he'll ring you out too. I am desperate to get pregnant. I have been wating for 8years. I really get frustrated sometimes. I rearly have periods maybe once or twice per year until I take pills. I wish you all the best.

[minney930]

I'm sorry you're going through this. This is a great place full of helpful, supportive people. One of the biggest things to overcome is the stress rollercoaster. It affects this process more than any of us would like. Despite the emotions you've been through (maybe shock, anger, resentment, and acceptance) the best thing, I think, would be to do the tests. My cycles were all over the place with no regular timing about them. When I saw my doctor, he said I wasn't ovulating. I now take clomid to help me ovulate, and it results in regular periods. The OPKs will detect the lh surge which triggers ovulation within the following 36 hours. The surge doesn't last very long, and usually occurs around 15 days before your next menstrual period. Are you taking your temperature every morning before you get out of bed? That will confirm ovulation has occured by showing a thermal shift around ovulation. The nice thing about temping is that it is free (besides cost of BBT thermometer). I know its not fun to be in this situation, but you have found a great place. Good luck and Baby Dust to you!