life after multiple miscarriage

[Danielle1975]

I am 32 and i just had my 5th miscarriage at 9 weeks, last week.  Every loss seems to get harder & harder, I don't know what to do.  My 4th pregnancy I got a cerclage and at 13 weeks the baby still died.  the farthest I got was about 18 weeks.   No real tests have been done yet what should be done or should I just give up?  I don't know how many more losses i can take mentally!  But i want kids soooooooo bad.  I cant stop crying yet.  I keep telling myself to get over it, its not like i haven't been here before but that doesn't help?

[mommyluv02]

Hi, I did have one sucessful pregnancy after the first m/c but since then nothing yet but i just started my first round of clomid this month so i hope to change that. good luck to you and keep me posted
Amanda

[rita02]

I am soo sorry for you honey. Losing a child is horrible no matter how far you are. I too have sufffered multiple losses (6+1ectopic) but all before 6 weeks. No specialist has been able to find a reason either. It is very devastating. Every time I think "this is it", and then the bleeding starts! GRR!! I would consider a second opinion because you are loosing them so far. Most m/c occur <8 weeks or so. And don't rush yourself to "get over it". You must allow yourself to grieve. I said a prayer for you. God Bless!!

[ashort]

I'm sooo sorry to hear about your losses....I can't imagine what you are going through.  I had a m/c in June and I hope it doesn't happen again.  I can tell you that I would get bloodwork done.  After my m/c I went to see an RE just b/c it took me 14 weeks to get af back after m/c.  I asked him to do all the m/c screening bloodwork.  He said he wasn't concerned but he would do it.  I ended up testing positive for compound heterozygous MTHFR.  So I'm glad I got the tests done.  Now I have to take extra vitamins and an aspirin a day.  Good luck to you!

[Danielle1975]

Thank you very much,

were you successful with any of your pregnancies after your losses?

[Danielle1975]

I have been monitored for at least the last 3 and none of the high risk doctors have done much of anything because i think that their approach has been let nature take its course and If im going to lose i'll lose, I don't know I am starting to wonder the purpose of a high risk doctor?

[mommyluv02]

I am so sorry for all of your losses i can only imagine you pain i have had three miscarriages but all were before 8 weeks.  But as to what you should do, I think you should see another doc. There should have been extensive testing after the 18 weeks pregnancy if not the 13 weeks preg too. I hope that you find some peace and that you are able to find a  doc that will do some testing and find out what is happening. Again i am so sorry!
Amanda

[tricia448]

i am so sorry for what you are going through...i cant even begin to imagine how you are feeling. i would just like to ask you a question...have all your pregnancies been monitored by your obgyn...or are you seeing a specialist?
again, i am so sorry..and my thoughts and prayers go out to you!!!