trying to conceive

[leah2365]

I guess this is a question although it seems more like a complaint but here it goes anyway.  I had my one healthy wonderful child when I was 18, since then my husband and I have tried to conceive another resulting in a miscarriage in September of 2006 and another in Jauary of 2008 (3 days before my birthday which really sucked), and since then there has been nothing.  I know doctors generally wait until you have had 3 miscarriages to start checking infertility problems but I have found one who is kind enough to not make me go through that again.  Since I have been seeing her she has put me on massive amounts of medicine including vitamins and hormones, I have been diagnosed with homozygeous MTHFR deficiency, PCOS, high blood pressure, and infertility.  I have taken clomid, metphomin, and now she wants to biopsy something to make sure my uterus and other parts is absorbing progesterone and some other kind of radiology test to see if there is some kind of blockage that is preventing me from releasing eggs at all.  I also know that I have the rh factor because my blood type is b-.  With the first miscarriage they did not give me the rh shot but with the second one they did.  I am so confused by everything she wants me to do that I have become depressed and don't even know if I want to continue to try anymore.  Several of my friends have conceived in the past few monthes and it is driving me crazy and I feel inadequate, and even more I feel ashamed because I am jeleous.  Is there any one who can give a little advice or even just a sympathetic word?

[shelley121]

I totally hear you, and I'm going through the same thing. We have a 4 1/2yr old who is about to start school, my husband and I have been trying for our second now for 2years and everyone around us is having babies even people that I never expected too, it's driving me insane, I feel so jealous and that's just so awful but I can't help it. I'm so sick of trying, sex has become a chore, I'm depressed, moody, I'm sick of hearing people say to me the same old thing "if you just stop thinking about it- it will happen" I say, and how do I do that when we' have been trying now for 2 years.....it's not easy I know and I'm sorry I don't have anything positive to say to you except "I know what your going through"........

[leah2365]

She is treating the MTHFR with folic acid, and I think b12 or b6 vitamins. With the Clomid I did ovulate but did not conceive, and then she didn't prescribe it again for some unknown reason.  It took me three monthes to get her to refill the Rx.  I am also confused with some of the tests she wants me to have done, I am going back to see her I think next week and hopefully she can explain more to me.  

[tina1111]

I am sorry you are having so many difficulties. You really got dealt a cruddy hand. PCOS & MTHFR. That's not fair.  I am glad you have a healthy child and sorry to hear of your losses. Unfortunately, with MTHFR, losses are all too common. While it is not cureable, there are treaments that are not invasive that really help. I have posted a link below on MTHFR if you like to read more on it. Maybe, you already know and are being treated.

Metformin is pretty routine with PCOS and Clomid is, too. Did she say whether or not you o'd on Clomid?

It sounds like you have a thorough dr. That is a good thing, even though it can be overwhelming. Each test gets you a little closer to conceiving and carrying to term. Just take it one step at a time. Each one is just a hurdle to get over and it's easier taking the hurdles one at a time. On the bright side, at least you know some of the problems and how to deal with them. Knowing where to start is 1/2 the battle. I hope it gets better for you soon :)

http://mthfr.150m.com/

[kramik107]

I totally hear and understand your frustration -- I had a child at the age of 19 now I am married and me and my husband have been trying for 3 years -- our first miscarriage was 7/2005 and then 2/2008 -- since February we have had nothing.  We started going to fertility dr in January -- we have had every test under the sun done and we both are fine.  Our diagnosis is unexplained infertility.  I know how you feel I feel like everyone around me just had a baby are about to have a baby or just found out they are having one and me and my husband are struggling for 1.  All I can say is don't give up hope.  It will happen.  I haven't been back to the fertility dr since July (only because everything is out of pocket and I really can't afford all the treatments) so I just have been temping on my own and using OPK's.  I actually did do a round of clomid this month because my luteal phase was only 8 days long last cycle.  I am now 5 dpo and keeping every part of my body crossed.  I also have decided that if we fail again this month I am not gonna "try" as hard -- I will give up on OPK's and temping.  Everyone that has gotten pregnant didn't do any of that it just "happened" and when I had my son 8 years ago I wasn't trying for a baby it just happened.  Good luck to you.