Vaginal Pain

[jlc5155]

After reading many articles and blogs, I am wondering just how many woman are affected with painful intercourse do to fibro?  I have had painful intercourse for at least 15 years and no doctor has been able to find anything wrong.  One or two have thrown it up to dryness, problem being there is no dryness.  I have given their estrogen creams a try but the pain is still there.  After finding a site that talked about painful sexual contact, I was tickled to death that I wasn't going nuts.  Several doctors have looked at me like I had two heads just because they couldn't find the problem.  I would love to hear from women that have experienced this problem.  

[30andFatigued]

Do you know what I am tired of?  Pain in my *** - literally!  If it's not the bleeding va-j-j (external bleeding from dry, cracked, irritated skin) or the bleeding hemorrhoids that I've had since age 18 - then it's the FM and pain in my hips and butt cheeks.  The trigger points in my cheeks and hips are what keep us from having sex.  If we do,  it has to be quick and then we feel cheated.  Or maybe more so me than the hubby.  I get trigger point release massages weekly (for the gluts - not the va-j-j-- I haven't gone there, yet!) sometimes 2x a week so I can sit during the day - at home, at work, at dinner, you name it.  This helps some.  There are good days and bad days.  So we try to have sex on the good ones.  Or I soak in the tub beforehand to loosen up the muscles.  Spontaneous sex?  Not ever.  But nonetheless, at least we still have physical intimacy of sorts.    

[uk2]

I only get these cramps now and again so im not sure its the same as you, but when im in pain in my body which i get alot with fibro if that is what this is still undx yet me  my husband and i just gently lay and play with each other if you get what i mean, and use lots of lube like alaw37  says, we very rarly have full sex as its too painfull all over for me but we have had moments when im ok so we have done massage and gently things to stay close to one another, and it always helps to make fun of things. i hope you get things sorted.

Take care

[alaw37]

Hi!  Lots of patience and LOTS of lube!!  Vagisisil personal lubricant is better for me than KY.  It feels more like the real stuff.  We laugh(to keep from crying) and call it Vag-UN - seal!!LOL.  It SUX to have paper cuts feeings on your monkey all the time!!(Ha!)

[jlc5155]

One other thing I would like to ask of all of you that suffer with the painful intercourse, vaginal pain and bleeding after intercourse, what changes have you made or what do you do to continue to have relations with your partner?  Maybe some of your suggestions or treatments can help me. My husband and I would  like to know what other couples do to maintain a healthy relationship when it's so painful.  Thanks to all.

[jlc5155]

I have had this happen. Ithas been almost impossible to sit down because of the pain in the vaginal region.  Get the nerve up to talk to a doctor.  In the last several months I've had so many things to talk about that nothing bothers me now.  My husband sits right there with me and if I forget something he chimes in.  I haven't had relations with my husband since February because of the pain of the act itself.  alaw37, if you ever find out what the magical injections was let me know.  The shot would be a welcomed relief just to get the "paper cut" pain and bleeding to stop and have a semi-normal sex life with my husband.
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[uk2]

Hi

A frustrating topic, i get internal cramps deep inside my vagina and i get them having sex (not always) and without sex in a bad flare when i get cramps i get these then and walking i have not had the nerve to tell any doctor or consultant i just put it down to another sx, im not sure if that is what jc 5 is talking about or if anybody else has had that happen.