Just stay in the "here and now". Right here right now you need help. The weakness and flu like symptoms you have can last quite some time. I forget from previous chats how long you have been diagnosed, but if you are early on in your illness, you should get extra help.
Having four children is a joy and a huge committment with non stop energy demands. I am amazed you and your fiance' have maintained any sanity to date.
With getting help you will find changes in so many ways. I can bet if you checked your body right now every muscle, besides hurting, is tighter than a twisted rubberband. With assistance around the home, this will relax.
Best wishes to you dear girl.
You're very welcome Kenderyl...and thank you. I hope you will follow through with this and that you can get the help you so desperately need. It never hurst to ask. Take care.
Found this article: http://health.msn.com/health-topics/caregiving/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100167121 thought it may help some of you as well.
"You may consider home care services if you need assistance caring for yourself because:
* You're less able to care for yourself as you get older
* You have a disability
* You're recovering from an illness, surgery or a hospital stay
* You're living with a chronic illness
* You have a terminal illness"
Thank you for the link. I guess I'm just scared to do it while at the same time, am well aware of how much my family and I would benefit from some extra help. I don't have family in the area and I lost my friends during my pregnancy (many I had to let go myself because they were just not healthy relationships.) We only just started to investigate going to church but honestly, the past two weeks I've felt so miserable that I couldn't go. :(
http://www1.dshs.wa.gov/
Here is the link to Washington's Dept. of Social and Health Services. If they can't help you they may be able to point you in the direction to someone who can.
I can't begin to imagine how tired you must feel; maintaining a home, children and your fiance while having a flare.
If you have a place where you could apply for help, then yes, by all means do so. If you qualify then they can just send someone out when you are having a flare and need them. There is no way to measure how long flares are going to last. I find that I have symptoms daily and when I am flaring, that is a time when i'm typically in the bed for a day or two.
I'm not sure what type of programs are available in your area, but the first thing I would check into (should you apply) is the costliness of receiving the help. I am not getting any type of assistance, but I also do not have 4 children to keep up with (and that's more than a handfull).
I hope you can get some type of help...I know how hard it is to try and keep up with everything. Please take care of yourself too.