Exposure in SPA Centre - body touching, fingering

[makro1989]

Went to a mssage parlour two days back, engaged in below listed activites.
1. Body to Body Massage.
2. Light kissing
3. CSW started rubbing penis from mouth, but i stopped her. But i guess ahe has taken penis in mouth for few seconds.
4. Out of Heat, rubbed her vagina for few second, no visible cut on finger

I am so anxious after the incident as i am married with two kids.

Was i exposed to hiv

Pls help

[Sara_MHModerator]

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[GuitarRox]

I  can tell you are anxious, suffering hiv fear to the extent that you are narrowing your ability to receive information. We really can't help with that. I'm not sure what country you are in but anxiety is a treatable disorder. Our reassuring you over and over actually only will make your anxiety worse. It may help momentarily but it just solidifies that your concerns are real and they come right back. I'd suggest that your activities outside your wife should be avoided. That's also sounding like a compulsion if you've had a life long fear and yet do the very thing that unnerves you. See how that would not make sense to a rational, functional mind? I'd guess this isn't your first time posting here and you keep coming back to this issue because you haven't yet tried to do the psychological work to move past it. I hope you do. I will not be giving you anymore reassurance. take care

[GuitarRox]

"Was I exposed to HIV". No. You had no risk for hiv from your 'spa' visit. The only risks for HIV are to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex (inserting penis into either without condom) or to share IV drug needles to inject drugs. Those are the ONLY risks. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. No risk

[makro1989]

But i have red on almost all sites that oral sex is a risky behaviour and i m getting anxious.. what should i do

[AnxiousNoMore]

You are accidentally turning your fear into a full time job when you keep searching, because you can read anything on the internet.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (hand, clothes,  fluids, mouth, maybe blood, finger cuts, rub vagina, etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
The above advice explains half a dozen reasons why you had zero risk, so it is time to stop worrying and move on from hiv transmission ideas that can't happen.
The first step to peace is to stop googling hiv COLD TURKEY because you will only make yourself more anxious whenever you locate another site. There is always a slight chance that you can die from Covid but you didn't worry about catching that, so your priorities are mixed up when you worry about a disease you can't even get.

[makro1989]

I am not able to leave this episode, whole day think of what if and all..
Then open my phone and search for transmission route from oral fingering and what not..
Whenever i try to leave this all of a sudden something comes up in my mind from that episode and i am back to square one.
I have two kids, not able to go near to them..
Further, just want to let you that i have always anxious about HIV since i was small kid, when ever i go near somebody then keeps thinking for few days, what if i have contracted something..
I have decided not to get into these kind of situations from now, because i cant handle the after effects..
Pls help me to get out of this and it is eating me day and night..

[AnxiousNoMore]

Since you didn't answer the QUESTION above, I'll do it for you. Answer> No there wasn't a penis in my anus during the massage and she didn't inject me with a hollow needle during the rubbing so I had zero risk and should move on.
You have no medical training so should have zero faith in your own ideas about hiv transmission, however you have told everyone here that we don't know about transmission and only you knows about how it occurs. That is illogical thinking, but it might be just because of your anxiety - or it might be because you aren't able to understand what you were told.

Seek therapy to help you deal with your  hiv fixation because no one here can provide the one on one help that might allow you to  quickly live your normal life again. You are in mental anguish so the longer you put off seeking proper help the longer you are wasting your time in pain.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You ignored all the advice, so I don't even know why you keep coming back asking for more advice? For instance> "The first step to peace is to stop googling hiv COLD TURKEY because you will only make yourself more anxious whenever you locate another site. "