Worried about condom, do I need to test

[Tilpan]

I am from India and running happy family life for 4 years but last week had stupid mistake that I had protected vaginal sex with known family lady (we can't judge HIV status by seeing) .it was just one minute and while removing condom I have notice that it was fully covered head of my penis but I didn't check holes by pouring water.
I am worried that condom may have hole and pass on anything , because of this I am not moving freely with my wife and too much Anxiety.
   If holes on condom can pass Virus?
   Anxiety killing me and any small pain or something happens in body getting tension  
   Since she is ready for testing shall I ask her to test but I am thinking It is not good because I am worrying it is my job to do test
   How control Anxiety till 3 months for testing?
   How to tell my wife about this
Please suggest  

[Sara_MHModerator]

You've been answered fully that you did not risk HIV transmission from this encounter.  There is nothing to add to this.  We are now closing this discussion and wish you the best of health.  

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[Chima7]

You've already been told by several people that you had no risk. There is nothing more to add.

[Tilpan]

Thank You, since She  Is Nagative and known Lady .  Do You Suggest Me To Test At 6 and 13 Weeks Time?

[Tilpan]

Hi,Thank you so much for your valuable reply. It is giving me mind relief.

I am pretty much sure that condom was not broken and it was intact fully covered my penis.i am worried if in micro holes which may cause the way for virus.

So do I need to go for testing?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Micro holes are a myth. The only failure to protect is the big rip like I said. A lambskin condom would not protect but they are expensive and hard to find so make sure you didn't use one.

[Tilpan]

Thank you so much for replying..

That lady is ready for testing shall I ask her to do that and what else I can do now.

Place suggest

[Tilpan]

What else I can do now

[Sara_MHModerator]

As stated, you had protected sex with no evidence of a broken condom.  Hence, you had protected sex which is not a risk for HIV transmission.  So, you had no risk and this means you do not need to anything now.  No need to test.  Best.

[Tilpan]

Woman tested negative now and had protected intercourse, please tell me the risk now

[AnxiousNoMore]

If a condom fails, it is always a large rip down the seam, so it would have been very visible to anyone therefore checking with water is a needless messy test.
HIV testing is totally unnecessary,

I would not tell your wife because there is no risk and what she doesn't know won't hurt her. If she finds out however, she will be very hurt. She might develop an HIV phobia (and never want sex)  or may hate you or at least distrust you. Trust takes a long time to build and only seconds to destroy, so there is nothing to be gained by hurting her.

Condoms don't protect against std so you should tell her if you plan to do this again though.