Am i in danger?

[Lumia77]

hallo!
I am 36 years old and i have a relationship the last 6 months with someone i know from my past.
All of our csexual contacts so far were fully protected with condom, because in the past around 18 yeasrs old, with my first boyfriend i had an abortion and am extremely careful with those issues, as well am having intense phobias about diseases.
Almost a month ago we had unprotected anal sex without ejaculation for 3 minutes, then we proceeded with vaginal sex with condom.
I dont have any symptoms except extent heart beat, that i feel that am going to hurt my heart with so much stress.
I asked him if i can trust him and he ansewered that he doesnt have HIV or any other dangerous disease.
Please tell me am i in danger?
Lumia77

[Lumia77]

Thank you nursegirl6752.
Your answer put an ease in my thoughts because the feeling of anxiety was getting really bad.
I will consult a professional like u said before to help me with my anxiety issues and among my routine annual medical tests I will include this one too.
Thank you for your prompt answer.
I think you do a great job being able to communicate your knowledge and experience with worried people.
Keep up!

[nursegirl6572]

The REALITY is, being in a committed relationship, your risk is low.  It's doubtful your BF is infected, but periodic testing IS recommended for anyone who is sexually active.  The unfortunate thing is, you're dealing with humans, who aren't always honest and who don't always do the right thing.  While I'm sure it's not the case for you, people HAVE cheated on their partners and have given them STDs.  This is why testing once a year is a good idea for anyone who is sexually active.

I wouldn't be overly concerned about the risk of infection.  For one, MOST likely, your BF isn't infected anyway, add to that a one time brief exposure, that's not much to be concerned about IMO.

[Lumia77]

So, one last question:
since hiv is a reality and even if someone like me doesn't sleep around and almost all of my sexual endeavours in the past were protected condom etc..when our prophylaxis and careful selection as much as someone can
do that, of our partner with whom we share a
relation, is not enough?
sex is a human need and besides the dangers
is a normal act between people who really care for each other.
When that is not enough?
We should get tested anyway?
Or only when a real or highly potential danger exists? (High risk groups etc)
Is it ok to live the tremendous anxiety of waiting to get tested even if, according to pure logic and no lover-companion from
risky groups?
or am imposing a large amount of guilt in my act and that maybe creates my phobias and anxiety?
Thanks the community again

[Lumia77]

So according to u even if stable relationship we should get tested.
right?
Anyway I feel that am going to hurt my inner balance and health waiting for the three months.
I feel awful

[Teak]

You never take anyone's word for their status.,

[Lumia77]

So you think that is recommended even if discussed with my boyfriend?