Finger with small cut exposure

[Mahatmaghandi]

Hello, I had exposures that scares me last week I met random lady , then this happens close mouth kissing, brief vaginally sex I wore two condoms and ejaculated quickly . My concern is put my middle finger on her ***** and I had very painful sore on my thump small cut but not that much deep .I'm sure my thump never enter inside but maybe touched outer her outside vagina or came in contact with vaginal fluids .I'm not 100% certain. After one week I'm down with worst flu ever , extreme body ache , tiredness , stuffy and running nose high grade fever worst during sunny day . Chills ,sweating ,mouth sensitive to certain food , I have taken cold tablet fever subsides now the 4th day. I'm married man and struggling with guilt and scared for my wife .

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[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (maybe blood, maybe cuts anywhere, mouth, lips, finger in vagina (air contact occurs during this motion), saliva, etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.

Don't wear 2 condoms because the friction can rip them apart, so you're safer with one condom.
It's not surprising that you got Covid or flu like just about everyone else on this planet who doesn't wear a mask. Move on from hiv fears, because guilt does not cause disease.

[Mahatmaghandi]

Thank u for the response
I'm still not good state of mind , I don't want to irresponsible and infect my wife .just a follow up i have painful oral ulcer today , I'm really worried for how long will I wait to test . Its almost 10 days now

[CurfewX]

The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles with IV drug users.

You cannot get HIV or any STD through your hands, even if your hands get blood or fluid on them , or even if you get cuts or scrapes from an object that has blood or fluid on it.

If you do not engage in any of the activities I mentioned above with someone HIV+ or whose HIV status is unknown to you, you will NEVER have to worry about getting HIV. There is no information you could add about this event that would make it a risk for HIV.

You had ZERO risk for HIV and you do not need to test. We do not offer anxiety support in this forum.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Since you didn't answer the QUESTION in my advice I'll do it. Answer> No, there wasn't a penis in my anus when we kissed and she didn't inject me, so I had no risk and should move on, instead of wasting time on this forum trying to convince people that I have discovered ways to get hiv that researchers haven't discovered in 40 years of hiv history!
That idea of yours is quite far-fetched, considering that you have no medical research training.

[AnxiousNoMore]

The worst thing you can do is tell your wife about your imaginary hiv infection, because she might also develop hiv fixation. And, in addition to her maybe getting imaginary infection fears (like you have done),  she will be very hurt if you tell her what you did.

[Mahatmaghandi]

I was warned of excessive posting . Just to let you know my wife has outbreak of Rash covered her face and neck multiple Red dot raised pimples . No any other symptoms I'm also scared for her now what does this indicate acute infection

[Mahatmaghandi]

Hello I went to one of advance Lap in my city to do hiv testing and complete blood count. Blood drawn , Dr told they look antigen and antibodies result was negative 14 days post exposure.  Can I move on with my life now

[CurfewX]

You are either not reading or not comprehending our answers. You didn't have low risk. You had NO RISK. You don't have HIV. Your wife does not have HIV. Any test you take at any time will be negative, since you had ZERO risk for HIV.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You need to see a mental health therapist because your anxiety is a bit of a mental health disorder at this point.

[Mahatmaghandi]

Hello , since your last answer I was to post but om here again sorry for disturbing you. Despite your assessment for No risk exposure,  I moved on with my life but I have strange symptoms now and I didn't sleep well, pain on lymph nodes in the right side of groin , little sensation or tender on my armpits , muscle strain on legs , hips , this after one month now. Does this mean lymph is fighting with infection,  when I try to squeeze groin or armpit I don't feel swollen . Does hiv lymphadenopathy Does occur like this or it has to be swollen and painful , Does too much sex with wife cause muscle strain in legs and hips and cause small discomfort on the groin. Lymph in my neck are fine .my mind or anxiety can create similar signs.  I was diagnosed small uti infection last night normally wife has yeast or uti most if the times . Complete blood tells me what is wrong with my lymph nodes . Again I apologise for posting again

[AnxiousNoMore]

You need to see a mental health therapist because your anxiety is a bit of a mental health disorder at this point.

You don't have any medical training, so you should stop poking your lymph and irritating it. You are illogical and are therefore continuing to waste your time trying to convince people here that you have useful medical ideas.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Reread my advice above ".. there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life. .."

Since you didn't answer the question, here it is. Answer> No there wasn't a penis in my anus when I touched her with my cut finger, and she didn't inject me, so I had no risk and should move on, instead of wasting my life pretending to be able to diagnose hiv.