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Am I at risk ("grinding" with a sore)?

A few months ago I had a one night stand with a 40 y/o white f. I'm 27. I had protected sex twice with a condom. She provided the condoms, if that matters in assessing my risk. The first time I went limp after 3 minutes (I was drunk) and took the condom off and washed off in the bathroom. The condom was covering almost all of my penis when I took it off; maybe the very, very bottom of the shaft was exposed, but not for long because there was extremely little penetration because I was drunk. The second time I had sex until completion with another condom on, but pulled out before I came while holding the condom at the base of my shaft so it wouldn't come off.

I'm not really concerned about this. What I am concerned about is her "grinding" on top of me while we were both naked before the second time we had sex. I know grinding is a very, very low to nonexistent risk for HIV contraction, but I noticed two sores under the tip of the penis afterwards and I don't know whether they're linked to to the 1st episode of drunk sex or the grinding. They weren't bleeding sores; they were red and slightly cracked (like dry skin if you rub it a lot).

I tested negative for Gonorrhea and Chlamydia at 1 week (took antibiotics for both afterwards just to be sure), tested negative for HIV at 4 and 5.5 weeks (antibody test), and negative for Syphilis at 4 weeks.

What is my risk for HIV and other STDs? I'd appreciate everyone's input, especially Teek's.
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Your questions have been answered. End of subject.
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I don't mean to belabor the point, but what about the sores? That doesn't increase risk at all?
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Whomever you talke to didn't know what they were talking about. You were never at risk.
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I need to edit before I post. Fixed:

Thanks for the quick reply!

I don't mean to question your knowledge because you seem like one of the more knowlegeable people on here, but I thought there was a risk if you had sores. Do they have to be bloody? I know I had protected sex, but wouldn't grinding with a girl on top put you at exposure to her secretions if they made their way to the outside of her vagina? The reason I'm asking is because I told a guy at the CDC about the incident and he said I was at risk and likened my exposure to someone having HIV+ blood thrown in their eye.
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No, you don't contract HIV unless you have unprotected anal or vaginal sex or you share works with other IV drug abusers.
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Thanks for the quick reply!

I don't mean to question your knowledge because you seem like one of the more knowlegeable people on here, but I thought there was a risk if you had sores. Do they have to be bloody I know I had protected sex, but wouldn't grinding with a girl on top put you at exposure to her secretions if they were made their way to the outside of her vagina? The reason I'm asking is because I told a guy at the CDC about the incident and he said I was at risk and likened my exposure to someone having HIV+ blood thrown in their eye.
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Zero for HIV.
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