HIV FEAR AND TESTING after protected vaginal and oral sex

[zakirkhan786]

This forum and some people once counselled me regarding HIV 10 years ago regarding oral sex

Since then I never involved in any kind of sexual.activity outside my marriage which happened 2 years ago...Yesterday i made a mistake...I was drunk and i failed to control my sexual desire in front of a female sex worker...I followed all the possible ways to have safe sex....Deep Kiss for max 20 30 secs....Received blowjob with condom...Have vaginal sex with intact condom which i checked the next day after filling water in it...It was showing some sperm floating in it and with nonpossible leakage...Now I am feeling very guilty...After 10 years i repeated the mistake...My wife is waiting for me at my home and i am not going as i know that once i reach my home i can not convince her to do sex with condom for 4 weeks for a antibody test..Please guide...

[AnxiousNoMore]

You can't get hiv when you use a condom and the condom rips apart if it fails so that didn't happen.  
If you can't accept that then see a therapist because this forum can't do one on one counseling for people who worry.
If you're going to fall apart mentally every time you see a sex worker, then you maybe shouldn't do it again, then you won't have to waste your time afterwards going through agony that your imagination creates.

[zakirkhan786]

I recieved the same answer from Ruby Witch in 2013 jan...I know each of your word is absolutely correct...For the past 10 years i followed this advice too...But today again i am standing on rhe same place i was 10 years ago

[AnxiousNoMore]

Seek therapy instead of wasting your life imagining things.

[zakirkhan786]

One Last question please.....I remember during mid of the session that the Condom was intact....I slept soon after having sex and didnt bothered to put off the condom or check that it was on the penis or not....After 2 hrs i found that it was just at the shaft of the penis but i didnt removed it as i was sleepy...As the penis was not hard...The condom was loose....Then in morning when i came in my senses I found that the condom was lying on the bed as i was slept with the condom on...Then i filled it with water and found that there was bot even a minor hole in it...Also I found some sperm floating in water....i kept that for 1 2 hrs but found no leakage

My Question is....Is their any way that the condom slipped from the penis exposing it to HIV during the sexual activity?

Also can i continue unprotected sexual activities with my wife based on the above mention3d encounter. No other potential exposure was happened.

[CurfewX]

You are creating irrational scenarios in your head.  It is NOT this difficult.  If the head of your penis was covered during intercourse - and it was - you had zero risk for HIV.  

This will be my last response.  You don't have HIV, so you can do whatever anyone else without HIV can do.  Move on from this event.

[zakirkhan786]

Hi....Today ia 13th day....I didnt have any fever since then....No major rash suggestive of ARS...but i found that my wife has redness all over the skin on front back and on hips today...I had sex with her two or three times with condom...Once for two minutes inhad sex with her without condom...no ejaculation takes place

What does these rashes suggests....Did I put her life at a risk by involving in protected sex...I am waiting for one month to finish and then go for a HIV test. Please suggest on this.

[zakirkhan786]

My wife has mild fever 3 days back with sore throat and cough that persisits today also

[Sara_MHModerator]

As stated by our members, you had no risk for HIV.

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