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Hong Kong Escort Unsure About Protection
Hi All,
I did something really stupid this weekend. I’m in a long term relationship, never cheated or wanted to cheat before but I got so drunk this weekend in Hong Kong I did something I’m regretting terribly.
Not sure what happened, black out drunk, all I remember is arriving at a flat with two girls, obviously prostitutes, I definitely received unprotected oral sex from them and at one point one received oral sex from me. I vaguely remember thinking at least she had a condom but to be honest I don’t remember actually having sex.
I am feeling terrible, so so guilty, I’ve not slept in 2 days, no appetite, loose bowels I suspect with fear and worry. I have a small red lump appeared within my public hair but I think it’s just an in grown hair.
Am I hugely at risk for STD’s or worse? I read about HIV 1, 2 and p24 tests you can do at home. If I did this after 3 weeks would it be accurate?
Any advice would be amazing, as you can imagine, tearing myself a part, I have no idea what came over me. Following the episode the stole my phone, my money and a car dumped me at the hotel. Feel like I’ve ruined my life.
I did something really stupid this weekend. I’m in a long term relationship, never cheated or wanted to cheat before but I got so drunk this weekend in Hong Kong I did something I’m regretting terribly.
Not sure what happened, black out drunk, all I remember is arriving at a flat with two girls, obviously prostitutes, I definitely received unprotected oral sex from them and at one point one received oral sex from me. I vaguely remember thinking at least she had a condom but to be honest I don’t remember actually having sex.
I am feeling terrible, so so guilty, I’ve not slept in 2 days, no appetite, loose bowels I suspect with fear and worry. I have a small red lump appeared within my public hair but I think it’s just an in grown hair.
Am I hugely at risk for STD’s or worse? I read about HIV 1, 2 and p24 tests you can do at home. If I did this after 3 weeks would it be accurate?
Any advice would be amazing, as you can imagine, tearing myself a part, I have no idea what came over me. Following the episode the stole my phone, my money and a car dumped me at the hotel. Feel like I’ve ruined my life.
This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You could get an std panel done though I am doubting that you had sex because they wouldn't want it since they were able to steal your belongings. They likely gave you a drug before they took your money.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You could get an std panel done though I am doubting that you had sex because they wouldn't want it since they were able to steal your belongings. They likely gave you a drug before they took your money.
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Thank you, I suppose my fear was that we did have sex and I just didn’t remember.
Thank you for commenting though, just putting it out there and having someone comment back has helped.
I’m typically pretty boring, I think it’s the fact this is so far away from anything I’d normally do is why I’m scared and worked up...
also the prospect of telling my partner when I get back..
Thank you for commenting though, just putting it out there and having someone comment back has helped.
I’m typically pretty boring, I think it’s the fact this is so far away from anything I’d normally do is why I’m scared and worked up...
also the prospect of telling my partner when I get back..
Read up on Las Vegas trick rollers and you will see a lot of the events you list. Trick rollers are professionals and want your money and DON'T want to have sex with you so I am pretty sure the oral is in your imagination. But that is irrelevant if you reread about "unrealistic".
Unfortunately it wasn’t in my head, there was some evidence in the form of lip stick felt behind.
Apologies as I know you think I’m being a bit irrational but is there anything you can think of that would cause my penis to be moister than usual under my foreskin and o think a little itchy/uncomfortable?
I can’t tell if the feel in my penis, my lack of sleep/appetite, loose bowels etc are all just in my head from panic etc or if there’s something there.
Apologies as I know you think I’m being a bit irrational but is there anything you can think of that would cause my penis to be moister than usual under my foreskin and o think a little itchy/uncomfortable?
I can’t tell if the feel in my penis, my lack of sleep/appetite, loose bowels etc are all just in my head from panic etc or if there’s something there.
How does lip stick prove you had vaginal or anal sex?
And why would those pros be dumb enough to have unprotected vaginal or anal? Which they don't want to do with you, when they already stole your money while you were drunk (or more likely they drugged you.)
Doctors can't diagnose hiv from symptoms so you won't be able to either, and no one here pays attention to symptoms.
Sorry no I meant, when you said I probably made up the oral...
Apologies, I’ll try to calm down. Just everything I feel and think I worry it’s an indication of something worse. I appreciate you’re saying it’s not a risk but as someone who’s got to 30 without being with a prostitute, not done drugs, not used to getting in to similar situations it’s terrifying and feels super high risk!
I’ll try to eat, sleep and keep an eye on my dick, hopefully it’ll work out ok...
Thanks again...
Apologies, I’ll try to calm down. Just everything I feel and think I worry it’s an indication of something worse. I appreciate you’re saying it’s not a risk but as someone who’s got to 30 without being with a prostitute, not done drugs, not used to getting in to similar situations it’s terrifying and feels super high risk!
I’ll try to eat, sleep and keep an eye on my dick, hopefully it’ll work out ok...
Thanks again...
The left side of my lower stomach/groin, I believe it’s my inguinal lymph node has been getting more tender during the day and now has a burning sensation, does this change anything?
No, it does not. Stop analyzing your body for "symptoms." I'll repeat what AnxiousNoMore said - Doctors can't diagnose hiv from symptoms so you won't be able to either, and no one here pays attention to symptoms.
What you're describing has nothing to do with HIV.
What you're describing has nothing to do with HIV.
Hi curfewX, thanks for replying.
Sorry, I didn’t necessarily mean HIV, I just mean an STD of some kind in general or if there good be another reason, the burning in my left groin is quite intense
Sorry, I didn’t necessarily mean HIV, I just mean an STD of some kind in general or if there good be another reason, the burning in my left groin is quite intense
This forum ONLY deals with HIV.
" as someone who’s got to 30 without being with a prostitute, not done drugs, not used to getting in to similar situations it’s terrifying and feels super high risk! "
This makes zero sense as any kind of hiv risk factor little own high risk, because you are just connecting those unrelated emotional worries and pretending they all add up to something biologically which fortunately isn't the reality at all.
If you have a burning feeling then see doc because your worrying might be giving you digestion problems, and he can likely calm you down with a face to face discussion.
This makes zero sense as any kind of hiv risk factor little own high risk, because you are just connecting those unrelated emotional worries and pretending they all add up to something biologically which fortunately isn't the reality at all.
If you have a burning feeling then see doc because your worrying might be giving you digestion problems, and he can likely calm you down with a face to face discussion.
Hopefully trying to see a doctor soon, I am in remote Japan and it’s proving to be difficult.
In addition to the burning/tender lymph node in my groin. Night 3 and 4 after the incident I am now having profuse night sweats, soaking the bed and a bit of a fever...
In addition to the burning/tender lymph node in my groin. Night 3 and 4 after the incident I am now having profuse night sweats, soaking the bed and a bit of a fever...
Stop reading about HIV on the internet. You are going to mimic every thing you are going to read about HIV. It's classic anxiety.
Guilt and fear is the generator of this ordeal for you, address that objectively. Quit reading about HIV incessantly on your phone.
Guilt and fear is the generator of this ordeal for you, address that objectively. Quit reading about HIV incessantly on your phone.
Ok, I hope you are right... I’m sorry I just can’t think about anything else, constantly looking for information until I can get to an English speaking doctor. The most distressing thing for me is not remembering what actually happened and the fact I can’t shake this burning, pain in my left groin lymph node.
However the prospect of meeting and telling my partner soon, the lack of appetite and sleep probably isn’t helping...
However the prospect of meeting and telling my partner soon, the lack of appetite and sleep probably isn’t helping...
You aren't a doctor so stop pretending you even know what lymph does, then move on.
HIV related swollen nodes don't pain. If you have a pain, it isn't HIV related.
You have spoken about your partner at least 3 times in this entire thread. It is evident that you are going through massive guilt, not only that but also the fear of confrontation with your partner is causing a lot of anxiety in you. Being human, we make mistakes, you have to take that with a pinch of salt, if you are regretful, it's the first step to correction, I feel instead of beating your self over this incident, you need to look towards the reason that made you do this and work on it. Perhaps this is an HIV prevention forum, you need to see a therapist to seek help on this issue.
You are exhibiting classic anxiety symptoms, your body will mimic whatever you read online. You need to quit researching HIV on google right away.
You have to work on your obsessive behavior at this point, ANM has provided you with excellent information, you yourself have mentioned that you didn't have unprotected vaginal sex and that ensured your seftey, there is no point in double guessing this any more, you need to accept it and move on.
If you still feel that you want to be sure about every thing, just get a test at 28 days with a duo, this is just for your peace of mind. It's going to be negative. We wish you good luck.
You have spoken about your partner at least 3 times in this entire thread. It is evident that you are going through massive guilt, not only that but also the fear of confrontation with your partner is causing a lot of anxiety in you. Being human, we make mistakes, you have to take that with a pinch of salt, if you are regretful, it's the first step to correction, I feel instead of beating your self over this incident, you need to look towards the reason that made you do this and work on it. Perhaps this is an HIV prevention forum, you need to see a therapist to seek help on this issue.
You are exhibiting classic anxiety symptoms, your body will mimic whatever you read online. You need to quit researching HIV on google right away.
You have to work on your obsessive behavior at this point, ANM has provided you with excellent information, you yourself have mentioned that you didn't have unprotected vaginal sex and that ensured your seftey, there is no point in double guessing this any more, you need to accept it and move on.
If you still feel that you want to be sure about every thing, just get a test at 28 days with a duo, this is just for your peace of mind. It's going to be negative. We wish you good luck.
I’m not claiming to be a doctor or know what a lymph node does, all I know is I have a tender area that feels like it’s burning constantly in my left groin area.
It’s easy to say move on but I’m in a foreign country where I struggle with the language, I’ve had what was for me pretty traumatic experience. I continue to have a fever, soaking night sweats, lack of appetite and sleep.
All I’m doing is trying to seek some reassurance, even for my self until I can get to a doctor.
I’m sorry it annoys you so much, it’s a medical support forum, I would imagine a lot of posters are anxious or afraid?
When you say move or are you suggesting I just ignore the symptoms I do have and just hope for the best?
It’s easy to say move on but I’m in a foreign country where I struggle with the language, I’ve had what was for me pretty traumatic experience. I continue to have a fever, soaking night sweats, lack of appetite and sleep.
All I’m doing is trying to seek some reassurance, even for my self until I can get to a doctor.
I’m sorry it annoys you so much, it’s a medical support forum, I would imagine a lot of posters are anxious or afraid?
When you say move or are you suggesting I just ignore the symptoms I do have and just hope for the best?
Thank you Mike, appreciate it.
My comment above wasn’t directed at yourself.
I suspect you are right, as you mentioned I am just getting increasingly anxious/upset over all aspects of the situation.
Genuinely appreciate all the comments
My comment above wasn’t directed at yourself.
I suspect you are right, as you mentioned I am just getting increasingly anxious/upset over all aspects of the situation.
Genuinely appreciate all the comments
It isn't about anyone being annoyed. We have rules that prohibit excessive posting, including repeated anxiety-driven questions and repetitive questions about a no-risk event. While a lot of members are afraid and anxious, this forum is only for medical questions related to HIV - while we are sorry you're so anxious, this forum cannot serve as an anxiety support service.
As you were advised, you did not have a risk for HIV and thus, your symptoms cannot be related to HIV. Additionally, if it will calm your fears, the correct testing time was given. There is nothing more that our members can say about this event.
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As you were advised, you did not have a risk for HIV and thus, your symptoms cannot be related to HIV. Additionally, if it will calm your fears, the correct testing time was given. There is nothing more that our members can say about this event.
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