Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound crazy, but I need to do this for my mental health.
I had been in an exclusive relationship with someone I met in Denmark while I was studying abroad. He came to visit me in the US 3 weeks ago. We were having protected vaginal sex when the condom broke. I realized we had never talked about STDs or anything because we had been using condoms. When I asked about his HIV status, he said that he tested negative in December, but he had 2 unprotected vaginal intercourse incidents after that, before he met me. I have horrible anxiety, so I began to panic. He said I needed to relax because HIV rates in Denmark are low and that he was confident he was not affected by the virus. After having a mental breakdown, he agreed to do an Oraquick Oral swab. The results were negative. I have been having trouble trusting these results because I left him at home while I ran to CVS to buy the test. He said he did not eat or drink while I was gone and that it had definitely been at least 30 minutes since he had anything to eat/drink. 3 weeks after the incident I am still paranoid. He is back in Denmark now, and our relationship has ended in part because of my horrific anxiety. I have been begging him to take a blood test at a clinic. He said he would do so soon, but I do not know when that will be.
Maybe I am being ridiculous about this whole thing. It has gotten to the point where I have been coming up with my own theories with him purposefully brushing his teeth or eating before i came home to produce a negative result. I'm just being unreasonable.
Summed up info: 1 time heterosexual vaginal penetration exposure receptive. Me: white female low 20's, Him: white male mid 20's from Denmark.
1. Can I trust the Oraquick oral test?
2. Is my risk low?
I know I have a mental health issue, and I am planning on seeking help for it. I just need someone with a clearer head than me to assess my risk.