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Concerned mother
Hey guys. I have read many of the questions in the archives and although I know much of this information, from what i have read and from my nursing career, i am still just an anxious mother who has made a mistake. I had unprotected sex 3 weeks ago with a man i now know to be very promiscuous. 2 weeks after i developed a sore throat and red pencil eraser size blotches on my chest. The red spots will stick around for a day or two then disappear. Then i get a couple more in a different area of my chest. I ran a low grade temp this past sunday evening, then no temp til yesterday when it was again a low grade temp. It is gone now, but this morning 3 more spots appeared (the previous ones have disappeared). I know these are repetative questions, but i really am just in some need of reassurance from others who have gone through experiences like this. Although I know you can't go by symptoms, does this sound like the rash of ars? Thank you for your patience and help in this scary time for me.
Carrie take your concerns to the anxiety forum that is also a great place to be at times like this
We are not a comforting forum sorry your anxiety is wayyyyyyy up there but you need to cool out
Which is another reason i appreciate the input. You have gone through what i'm going through now and more than i could ever imagine. You are stronger than i could be. I don't mean for people to get annoyed with me. Just anxious.
I am sorry that i kept posting guys. I have been extremely anxious today. I do appreciate the advice and having someone to talk to about this that has gone through it too. Thanks again.
Well, it is a scary thing to be facing. I have put myself in this situation, now i have to deal with it.
sealed your fate LOL even if you did contract hiv you would live another 35 yrs or so life isnt over when one has hiv remember that its not a death sentence these days
GodFather I am trying to be nice here you can do it or I will :))
GodFather I am trying to be nice here you can do it or I will :))
I certainly don't. And more importantly i am the only parent my child has. I just pray to God that i didn't already do something that has sealed my fate.
Yes I would say so, unless you have a grand to throw away each month for HAART medication.
Hahaha...i def learned that. I always drink too much when i go out...but this was the first time i actually blacked out. I remember throwing up...then i was waking up. I was a little sore so i asked him if we had done it and he said "uh...yeah". I told him he was gross b/c i had been puking...lol. I'm trying to find the humor in the situation...which is hard to do. I absolutely learned that i need to control my drinking when i go out.
I did ask him about whether or not he had anything he was aware of...he said no. But i haven't spoken to him since the day after this incident. I know he is very promiscuous, he goes to bars every night, and he is a very attractive, flirty man. I have heard from many people that its "a different girl each night". I had been with him previously and we used protection. But this time i blacked out and he told me he did not use a condom.
Have you tried questioning this man in order to find out his sexual history? Have you asked him if he has been tested recently? Of course, answers to these questions aren't reliable and you should still be tested regardless, but getting some more clarity on his status may help to reassure you a bit more until you go for your test.
I am...but i can't be tested for a little while. So i am just trying to alleviate some of my anxiety while i can do nothing.
SEEK HELP that is the best treatment for you at this time to get your anxiety levels back to normal
I don't mean to be "obsessive"...which i know i am. I just am having trouble looking past the red spots i had on my chest. My sore throat lasted just a week, my nodes are still swollen, my body was achy for about a week but temp never went above 99.5. But i had red spots that were on my chest, 3 or 4 at a time. They lasted at most 2 days each, then went away. I have since broken out on my back slightly (acne) and my chest...which isn't surprising considering how i am stressing. I read and reread posts on here about ars rashes, and i know it isn't good for me to keep reading them. But i am having such a hard time letting this go...it occupies my mind so much of the time. For the people that have more experience with these issues than i do...is there any way these spots could have been ars rash? I just can't imagine what else they could be b/c i have never seen anything like that on myself before (of course i am being hypervigilant too). Please help me with this anxiety...and thank you in advance for your patienct and understanding during this time of extreme anxiety for me.
Thank you very much. Sometimes it helps to hear from someone else. I really appreciate your help and admire you for what you do on here!
If one has ARS symtoms they all come together. High temp. flu like symptoms, etc. Rashes do not come and go. They come on 2-4 weeks post exposure and last 1-2 weeks. They are resolved at the same time. When we talk high temp it's above 101 degrees F.
Thank you Teak. I just am concerned b/c i know the "timing" is right. And b/c of the sore throat. I am obsessing I know, which isn't helping. How would you describe the ARS rash? And would a high fever always accompany it?
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