Hello everybody,
I'm a 25 yr old, single, uncircumcised male, and wouldn't consider myself 'sexually active' as such in terms of the relative amount of sexual partners I've had. Only been with 3 women in my entire life, 2 of whom I am sure are HIV negative. I've been practicing safe sex all my life, well nearly all my life :). Unfortunately the third woman I'm referring to was a prostitute at a posh hotel's spa, I hastily made a decision to indulge in protected oral & vaginal sex with this girl about 2 months ago. It was a single non-risk exposure. More on that in my brief questions.
I've been reading some of the posts on here for the last couple of days, and was relieved to see that a protected encounter is Zero risk as long as condoms are used properly. However, since I am in no way even a novice in matters of sex, I was slightly perturbed by the fact that I really hadn't taken the time to educate myself properly on matters of safe sex, and have come to conclusion that this forum is truly enlightened in these matters -- I hope to remain safe regardless of the encounters that come my way in the future, hence I have a few questions I'd like to ask in context to my time line of exposures. I'd be sincerely grateful if I could receive some detailed feedback as they will indeed help me better understand the risks I take in regards to HIV transmission.
(a) When I was 18, my first girlfriend was 100% a virgin, and never did any IV drugs. I had unprotected sex with her, It's safe to assume that this was a NO RISK situation then? Correct?
(b) I broke up with my second girlfriend last year, and since then have had NO sexual contact with her. Assuming her most recent unprotected exposure before me was back in Dec 2005, if she had taken an HIV antibody test now in July 2008, is there even the slightest chance that her negative result is in anyway inconclusive?
(c) Do condom's ever break without it being obvious?
(d) Without any actual investigation on my part, Is there a possibility that an inexperienced person like me WOULDN'T be able tell if a condom has failed after sex (I don't drink whatsoever)? As in, is there any chance that I'd NOT notice it somehow when I look at it after sexual intercourse?
(e) In this incident 2 months ago with the spa sex worker, the condoms were by Durex and were stated to be extra lubricated. Is condom breakage something very common, or considered something rare?
Thank you, I'd really appreciate if someone could take the time to explain the above to me as I'd like to better understand what my actual risks were in terms of all the exposures I've had thus far in my life.