Unprotected Genital Rubbing with Transsexual sex worker

[sanjsha]

I had unprotected genital rubbing with a transsexual sex worker. I fingered her a bit and she said it was hurting and then got some oil. I again fingered her for a bit only and then rubbed my penis on her anus for a short while. I wanted to rub only but with oil it might have slided in a bit. Though she told me that I didn’t **** her. Also, she told me she’s healthy but don’t trust her. What are my risks here? I am feeling paranoid

[sanjsha]

Thanks guys for your thoughts but I am having a sore throat on-off from couple of days, rash & rash like patch around my left wrist. What do you guys think?

[AnxiousNoMore]

See your doc and a mental health therapist instead of spending your life in agony over your imagination. This is an hiv prevention forum, not a place to deal with hypochondria such as thinking you have a sore throat that comes and goes.

[sanjsha]

In addition to all these symptoms i have mouth ulcer as well

[mike_no]

Nothing changes. We can't tell you that you have HIV because you don't. You didn't have a risk, we have already discussed that you need to see a counselor, this is the best this forum can offer you. You don't have an HIV concern.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

This thread is now closed.  You did not have a risk for HIV, so any symptoms you are experiencing have nothing to do with HIV.  Please consult your doctor about your non-HIV related symptoms.

[sanjsha]

The cis is a sex-worker. I don’t have much trust in her. Nevertheless could you please clear up on penetration? Or how deep it has to be

[AnxiousNoMore]

I couldn't figure which is the best response so I am giving you all 3 which effectively matches mike's advice.
Now you are worrying about something happening that came from your imagination. The csw isn`t dumb enough to let you penetrate her and risk hiv.
See a mental health therapist instead of spending your life in agony over this.

[sanjsha]

For it to be qualified as anal penetration does it gave to go fully in or a little slide is also the same?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Now you are worrying about something happening that came from your imagination. The csw isn`t dumb enough to let you penetrate her and risk hiv.
See a mental health therapist instead of spending your life in agony over this.

[mike_no]

If you start your question with a "what if", your guess is as good as mine that it didn't happen at all.

Please see a therapist for your anxiety, you have been already provided with the best this forum has to offer you. You don't have an HIV concern.

[sanjsha]

Does full penetration only leads to hiv transmission or slight penetration can also contribute to this?

[sanjsha]

What if the oil helped the penis slide in a bit slightly?

[AnxiousNoMore]

This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.

[sanjsha]

Also guys, I had a bit of sore throat yesterday, lack of appetite and slight fever type feeling today. Is that anything to worry? I made contact with her on Sunday evening.

[mike_no]

Sexual rubbing or inserting finger inside of an HIV positive individual's anus is not a risk for HIV contraction.

Also, if you have to guess that your penis went inside of her anus, it probably didn't happen. You are only imagining this, exactly the way you are imagining that she is HIV positive, which could be otherwise as well.

Since you are aware that you are paranoid, you must try calming yourself down, let the logic prevail. If you are unable to calm your self, seek help, reach out to a therapist.

You don't have to worry about HIV, testing wouldn't be necessary.

[sanjsha]

Two things worry me the most, one is oil and second is her being a transsexual sex worker? Any light on this?

[mike_no]

Oil can't be a host, infected fluid in contact with external environment is rendered uninfectious.

Also, assessment of whether your partner belongs to a high risk group is irrelevant for you since you had no potential exposure to worry about.

Please accept the help offered to you and move on. HIV is not your concern.

[CurfewX]

Oil has nothing to do with HIV transmission.
Being a transsexual has nothing to do with HIV transmission.

The only important factor is whether you had a risk or did not have a risk.  You can re-read DragonPulse's post listing the only HIV risks and see that you did NOT have a risk.

[sanjsha]

Guys, you have no idea how much relief I have got with your answers. Big thanks to you!!

[sanjsha]

Though, one question...what about other STDs? If i can ask that question in this group

[mike_no]

https://medhelp.org/forums/STDs---STIs/show/98

[DragonPulse]

If there was not penetration, there was not a risk of HIV. Rubbing is not a risk. The only ways HIV is spread are:
-Unprotected vaginal/anal penetrations.
-Sharing needles to inject drugs.
-Mother to child.

If there was penetration, go for a duo combo ag/ab test 28 days after the encounter. The result will be accurate.

All the best.