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Erotic massage, very scared

Hi, about 35 days back I got nuru/erotic body massage twice, on two consecutive days. Both the times, the masseur and I were fully naked. There was no sex at all; even there was no penis to vagina contact. However, I was lying with my face downwards, and the masseur were sliding over my back. I could feel her public hair on my back as well. I am wondering if her vaginal fluid might have entered into my rectum/Anus. Do you think that could have happened? If it did happen, am I at risk of HIV? Recently, I noticed some rash on my arms, and got super scared. Got a HIV test done, the test came negative, but then realised I had done the wrong test - it was the HIV antibody test, not antibody/antigen test. Should I get another test done with 4th generation duo? Please advise. I am very scared. I have a habit of searching the Internet  about symptoms, this is increasing my anxiety since many websites say that it is possible to contract hiv from vaginal fluid coming into contact with the genitals. Thanks so much!
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (maybe blood, maybe cuts, vaginal fluid, hair,  etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.

The first step to peace is to cold turkey stop looking at your body for clues to an imaginary hiv disease and the second is to stop googling for death cold turkey. Also, the dead vaginal fluid didn't crawl down your anus - it's not an insect.
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Thank you. I am guessing this means I do not need to get a 4th gen duo hiv test…
Correct, no need to test. You had no risk. The only risks are to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or share IV needles to inject drugs. that's it. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. So, you never had a risk at all and do not need testing.
Correct, don't test for diseases you can't have. You might as well test to see if she made you pregnant.
Hello, sorry for bothering again. But I have developed severe skin rashes now 6 weeks after the erotic massage. I went to the doctor and the doctor confirmed me it’s a viral rash. My exposure risk was erotic body massage where both I and the masseur was naked. There was no sex, but I am worried that the masseurs body fluid might have touched penis or Anus. Should I still not think that my (viral) rashes could be associated with HIV?? I am looking forward to hearing from you.
You didn't have an "exposure risk." You don't have HIV.

MOVE ON from HIV and focus on finding the real cause of your rash, which has nothing to do with the no-risk massage event.
Here is the answer to the QUESTION that you skipped over. Answer No, there wasn't a penis in my anus during the massage and she didn't inject me so I had no risk and should move on, instead of asking repeating questions that have been answered.
Rereading all of the advice (instead of skipping over it in a hurry to ask the same question again) would be helpful to you.

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