Terrible decision condom broke

[Gmorris1323]

I just two hours ago had protected sex with a transvestite escort. The condom broke she immediately noticed and made me remove my penis. I know it's unbelievable but it looked like the condom only brok on the shaft portion my head was still covered i was the top. I didn't believe the condom was broke at first but then i eventually found the hole on the shaft area. I'm freaking out right now. She claims to not have hiv but i don't believe her. I'm at the hospital currently about to try and get PEP please help

[CurfewX]

If you're at a hospital, you should probably follow whatever advice they give you.  This forum isn't an emergency help line.

[Gmorris1323]

But what is my risk in really nervous

[Gmorris1323]

I just want to know how risky this was

[Gmorris1323]

If someone could please help me assess my risk i would really appreciate it  

[AnxiousNoMore]

It would be unfair to you for us to calculate odds. Only the head needs protection and you and the hospital are the best people to figure out if that happened, so that's a key part of whether you even had a risk. If she made you wear the condom it's likely she is neg. otherwise would she pay for them? She only cares about protecting herself and if she's neg. then it costs her money to do that.

[Gmorris1323]

I appreciate the reassuring words I'm just kinda asking if this would be considered high risk or not

[AnxiousNoMore]

The answer is dependent on
1 whether the hospital thinks the head was exposed enough to allow hiv to get into - and go down the urethra. hiv has to travel down the urethra to infect. It can't get absorbed into the skin from cuts on the shaft, so blood and cuts on the shaft or head are irrelevant - you can't get infected that way.
2 Whether the other person is positive.

Any guessing here won't be reliable.

[Gmorris1323]

From what i remember the condom was completely covering my head and i was only inside for 5 seconds max before i took it out however i did start pep today

[Gmorris1323]

Any comments not this

[CurfewX]

Not really.  None of us were there and we can't determine what actually happened. So, if taking PEP makes you feel less anxious, you made the right decision for you.

[Gmorris1323]

Yes but what is the chances of i was only exposed for 5 seconds

[Gmorris1323]

Is this high risk should i be overly concerned etc what are the numbers anything you can offer

[CurfewX]

AnxiousNoMore already answered that question.  There is no event that carries more than a 1% risk of infection from a single act.
We do not offer anxiety support here.  There is nothing more we can say until you have finished PEP and waited to test.

[Gmorris1323]

Okay if i were to experience ars symptoms when would they occur

[Gmorris1323]

Because I'm feeling very cold all of a sudden and achy

[AnxiousNoMore]

Everyone in America has had at least 1 cold this winter but few of them have hiv. Therefore your body cannot provide clues to anything other than the fact you feel like you have a cold or flu or Covid or you got any of the many other conditions that makes that symptom - or maybe the symptom is in your imagination since this is a traumatic time for you.
It would not be surprising if you pick up something airborne since you don't mask in the presence of others in this winter season. Whether you take PEP or not, there is nothing for you to do but wait. Test at 4 weeks after the encounter or 4 weeks after you finish PEP. Either route involves lots of waiting with no answers (and absolutely ZERO useful clues ever) until you test.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

You are welcome to return when you get your test results.  As noted, there isn't anything further for our members to say at this time, and our HIV Prevention forum is not able to provide anxiety support.

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