I am in big panic

[NielsJacobs]

Hello

I went to a massage parlor.
The massage woman gave me a handjob. Is that a risk?
And during the handjob she spitted on my balls and maybe also a little bit on my penis.
Is that a risk?
And what if there was blood in her saliva? Was it a risk if she had blood in her saliva or in her mouth when she spitted on my balls and on my penis?
She also kissed me with tongue. Is that a risk if she had blood or a wound in her mouth? Or is that a risk anyway?

Please answer me, i am in big panic :( :(

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[CurfewX]

The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles with IV drug users.

NOTHING else you can think of, including the events you mentioned, would put you at risk for HIV.

[NielsJacobs]

Okay I understand. Thank you very much!

[NielsJacobs]

So just for clarification and confirmation.. also the kissing with tongue is absolutely no risk?
And also the massage woman biting on my lips is absolutely no risk?
And also the massage woman spitting on my penis is absolutely no risk?
And also the handjob is absokutely no risk?

[NielsJacobs]

I am sorry for asking again. I promise this is my last post. I just need clarification/confirmation to get peace in mind.

[GuitarRox]

Continuing to give you confirmation for peace of mind really just feeds the anxiety.  If you had no risk, you couldn't get HIV.  The risks are shared here. Did you have any of those risks? Air and saliva inactivate the virus, kissing and hand jobs are not risks.  

[NielsJacobs]

Okay, thank you very much! So the massage woman spitting on my penis and biting on my lips during the kissing is also no risk?
I promise this is my last question!

[GuitarRox]

You already asked the promised last question. Read the risks. If you didn't do those, no risk. Apply that for all sexual encounters going forward. Take care

[NielsJacobs]

I understand what you say but I just need a clear clarification/confirmation to get this out of my head.
Also the kissing was with tongue (french kissing). That is still not a risk?
And the massage woman biting on my lips during the french kissing is sure not a risk?
And the massage woman spitting on my penis is sure not a risk?

I promise this is my last message if i have a clear clarification/confirmation. Then I can get this out of my head for the rest of my life.
I am just so scared :( :(

[NielsJacobs]

Hi thank you very much for answering me.

So, if she is hiv+ and she had blood in her mouth or in her saliva when she kissed me, when she bited my lips whe spitted on my penis, that is still no risk?

I am sorry for asking this but I am so in panic :( :(

[AnxiousNoMore]

You have repeated the advice and stuck a question mark on the end of it. It is time to move on.

[NielsJacobs]

Okay so just to get this out of my head, I had zero risk, right?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Again, you repeated the advice but put a question mark at the end of it - which is purposeless. I suggest you reread all of it because you don't seem to have understood it.

[NielsJacobs]

I think I understand it but i just need clear confirmation so that I can get this out of my head and not worry about it anymore :(

[AnxiousNoMore]

Ok, if you want everything repeated here is one for youto consider since I asked this before >> Since you didn't answer the QUESTION, I will answer it for you. No there wasn't a penis in my anus when she kissed me and did handjob  -  and she didn't inject me with a hollow needle during the kiss so I should move on instead of wasting my time asking irrelevant questions.

[NielsJacobs]

Okay I understand. Thank you very much!

[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (mouth, saliva, blood etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus. The woman knew that and now you do too.

[NielsJacobs]

Also, she did bite on my lips during the kissing.
Is that a risk if she is hiv+?