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Having (no) symptoms means I have HIV?

Hey, male here 28.
One month ago, I did something with an unknown man for like 10 minutes - he's profile was like married man, and seemed ok he handed my tissues after, was talking properly-. That something included:
-Kissing, but my lip was slighlty dry and had a closed (i think) small wound. Also, i bit his lip (don't know if made an injury.)
-Handjobs
-Me, licking one ball (i don't think i saw any wound.) but didn't like it, so i stopped.
-He put his man-thing between my thighs (front to front) and he was going back and forth. (i have onset hemorroids and at the time i don't know if they were bleeding. I never bleed, just a small drop like "scratch" now and then)
-And finally, he touched with saliva and finger his man-thing's head, and touch my butthole slightly after. (i don't know if there was a precum)

Few hours later (I was shocked a bit) my mouth was burning, a bit. So, the next day i told the incident to my gp, and he told me not to worry, but if i am too stressed about it, we can make a test 3 months later.

Now, 3 weeks later, after i have a rollercoaster of emotions, almost Phd from everything i read on the net: i have (no) symptoms. What i mean? I started feeling i am hot, and my thighs, arms and face are feeling hot "burning" but my temperature is 36.0 to 36.8 (night) at the highest. Only one moment at night (while i was sleeping, i had a fever like 38.9 but for 10 minutes, as i got out of the blanket, and remeasured my temperature back at 36.7 10 minutes later (i think [logically thinking] that my body was outing hot temperature, but my blanket made it oven-like enviroment. i don't know)  . I am coughing now and then, but i think its due to stress and stomach (i have it occasionally all year long). Due to coughing my throat is slightly sore but goes away. I am feeling ok (or a bit hot) in the morning but then the burning starts at night but my measures stay put. And i can sleep, or i sleep 3 hours and then i wake up. I am really confused.
I am quarantined, so i am thinking of this all day. and i am going crazy. Do i have it? do i have something else (of std or whatever) ? I have to wait 2 months to get tested. But i am crazy scared.

Sorry if i look to stupid. But i feel i am loosing it.
Any comments would be liberating...
Thanks in advance
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Hi there again. It's been a week, and my hot non fever symptom stays put. My temperature still goes from 35.8 to 36.7 through the day,and body feels warm, BUT comes and goes, in large periods of time (like all night). Sometimes mouth has burning sensation, and feels dry. Do you think its suspicious for HIV or another  STD? I wanted to be sure, cause i am getting crazy. You know troubled minds do not think clear..

All day i repeat the process in my mind:
-Kissing and bitting lip (unaware of any wound)
-Have been fingered with a salived (dont know precumed) finger.
-Slightly (maybe) rubbed in my bottom (from in front) with his thing, but i have hemorrhoids and dont know if they were scratched and bleeding... (dont know for precum either. )
-Handjob each other till cum.

No penetration. Not even oral. I dont recall any other suspicious movement.

Thanks in advance. Just woke up in my sleep. Again. I feel both afraid and stupid at the same time...But i don't know what else to do...
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You don't have HIV.  There is no other way to say it - you were never exposed to HIV through your activities, so whatever "symptoms" you are having have nothing to do with HIV.

If you keep repeating a completely benign process in your mind and thinking it caused you to have a risk, when you have been told it did not, then it is time to seek counseling for your irrational thoughts.
Thanks for your reply.. Quarantine and general anxiety got me close (if not already) to panicking state of mind. Sorry for my stupidity and persistence..
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (various items, penis, saliva and kissing which is not a risk for hiv.) No worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.

You are focusing on the wrong virus since you didn't have any hiv risk.
At this point in time, I would avoid encounters with people you don't live with because of the likely 100% risk of you contracting or spreading Covid (if one of you two was positive) in which case you might also spread it to your loved ones.
Since neither of you were social distancing, I hope you check out this forum for information on why you should be doing that 100% of the time today. https://www.medhelp.org/forums/Coronavirus/show/2203
Your health is your wealth, so I hope you remain healthy to be able to enjoy life. Many infected Covid patients including young people are under the misunderstanding that they have zero risk from Covid, but will discover that not all of them will be spared permanent lung and related heart issues in which case they have lost that wealth forever.
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thank you so much for your reply .  I only though of the "cuts"/wounds if i bit him and on my bottom.. Any comment on the symptoms? Pure anxiety issues? ( i had previously kind of panics and stress issues for non sexual matter).
The good news is you can't have hiv, so that answers all of your questions, except that it is natural to feel anxiety when you fixate on a disease so totally avoiding the internet googling for a disease is a first step in ending that problem.
Thank you friendly stranger. That calms me so much!
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