Testing after oral sex, help please!

[worriedturk]

Dear Drs and all,

I have had unprotected oral sex without ejaculation by the end of December, beginning of January. I did not mind much as it is a low / no risk situ until I had a itch on the top of my penis. So I went to urologist and he ran few tests and told me all came back negative so it might be a prostatitis issue to follow and see.

Then searching for STDs made me anxious and I got tested in a private lab in Turkey for HIV, hepatitis, syphilis and so on. They all came back negative. This was mid-March. About 8 to 11 weeks after exposure. HIV test was a Vidas Duo Ultra searching for for antigen and antibody. Tests being negative I got a relief again but only for a few weeks. I started reading online on symptoms and window periods and so on and got extremely anxious. I got a mild diarrhoea for 2 days and fever for one day beginning of April which is at least 2,5 months post exposure might be due to simple food poisoning but made me more and more anxious which led to severe panic attacks and reflux for a few nights and ever since I have muscle pain at my neck, arms and groin and legs and headaches for a month and swollen / sensitive lymph nodes for 2 weeks or so.

I understand it might be stress related yet it is really severe so I am completely confused. I am even more anxious since I am married and terrified of passing HIV to my wife. I think I might be able to solve it with a second last test but I am terrified to see my result turn positive.

So my questions:

1. Are duo tests conclusive after 7weeks + time? The lab run the test assures me that after 28 days it is 100% yet I've read online that sometimes there can be a short second window period where p24s are low yet the antibodies lowered them are not yet high enough to show up on tests? Might I have tested on the second window period? Would my tests turn positive now 4,5 months after exposure? Is there a recorded case turned + from a negative duo test? Also the AIDS foundation here in Turkey says that any test post 50 days are conclusive. I tested after the 50 days for sure. But then there is the 3 months mark..

2. Is it possible to develop ARS symptoms after 3-4 months? Or is it categorically 1-6 weeks. In that period I am sure I was healthier than ever. But now the 'symptoms' drive me crazy. Are there reported ARS so late?

3. Should I get tested again after the duo test negative. Or would that one test be conclusive after all?

I am physically and mentally broken with all these questions and worries.

Thank you so much for your answers.

[worriedturk]

Anyone please?! Freaking our here

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

There is no need for further discussion.  As you have been advised, you had no risk, and the additional questions are not relevant to a no-risk event - no risk = no ARS and no testing needed.

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[worriedturk]

Still any other advice and answers for the other questions of the matter would be highly appreciated. Thanks so much.

[GuitarRox]

If you look at what I wrote -----  oral sex is NOT a risk.  NO RISK.  No test.   NO HIV.  No one since HIV was identified has ever gotten HIV from oral. Not a single PROVEN, documented case.  So, your worry is for nothing.  I have nothing left to say other than one more tie, no risk.  

[worriedturk]

Thank you loads. Hope I can put this in my anxious mind.

[GuitarRox]

I'm not sure why you are testing at all for oral sex.  The only way to get HIV is to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or share IV drug needles.  You never had a risk in the first place.  You don't need to test again.  

[worriedturk]

Yes but there are people saying oral sex carries minor but still carries risk? Even though there was no ejaculation I was on the receiver side so there might have been precum which carries HIV afa I know. Anyhow 3 months I guess is too late to develop ARS symptoms right? Or do oral sex makes you seroconvert late? Ah these question will run me mad.