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Hole in condom
7 weeks ago I had sex with a csw I meet online. It lasted for about 4 minutes. after ejaculating I noticed fluid dripping from tip of the condom. I’m not sure if it was mine or the female’s. I also noticed some blood particles on the outside of the condom which maybe due to her being on her period .my worry is that the condom may had a micro tear or pin sized holes which allowed passage of fluids. I took pep at 43 hours. I completed it and 3 weeks later I’ve started noticing some fatigue and muscle pains. No any other symptoms. I’ve tried assuring myself that I’m ok but my mind still isn’t at rest . I need your opinion on this situation.
2. The below advice assumes she DIDN'T poke holes in the condom and is intended to give you correct advice since you seem to claim that doctors gave you incorrect advice that you can get hiv when you use a condom that doesn't have holes in it.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (maybe blood on outside of intact condom, maybe cuts on your body , etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (maybe blood on outside of intact condom, maybe cuts on your body , etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
I wouldn't suspect a hole in a condom as small holes are really a myth. Once a condom's integrity is jeopardized, it rips. Fluid outside the condom is no worry for HIV. The only risks for HIV are unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing IV needles. Pep is a hard drug to take and no doctor should ethically give it to you for this no risk situation. Keep your anxiety in check, it's unwarranted.
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Thank you very much ..I’ll move on in life and handle my anxiety.
If a condom fails it rips wide down the seam. Micro tears don't happen. PEP was a waste of time. See doc if you have health problems - it might be in your imagination, but it certainly has nothing to do with hiv disease that you weren't exposed to.
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Thanks your answer has relieved my worry. However just to clarify the situation, I know condoms don’t have holes in them but I suspect she might have sabotaged it. As she was the one inserting the penis herself. If so, what are the chances that there’s possible risk? Doctor who gave me pep said they might have been possible exchange of fluids. Please clarify and thanks so much for your time.
1. If you worry that she sabotaged the condom that she paid for, no one here can help you. Test with a duo 28 days after finishing the PEP if you can't stop worrying.
2. We don't pay attention to posters claims that doctors or other sites told them something incorrect, or we'll be here all day.
2. We don't pay attention to posters claims that doctors or other sites told them something incorrect, or we'll be here all day.
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