How worried should I be?

[saitori]

Hi,

Six days ago I met a woman in a bar. I was very drunk so it seemed a good idea to take her home. She performed oral sex on me and I on her (2 days after I developed a sore throat that was Dx as tonsillitis, how much does this increase my risk of HIV?). Afterwards we had sex. To start there was a condom. Being drunk, I was not very sensitive or rational and when it broke it took anywhere between 5-10 min before I had the smarts to pull out.

The next day I freaked out. I asked her to get tested with me at my expense. We both took a blood test and the results were negative. However, she admitted to having unprotected sex several times with one man while on vacation about 1 month ago. She also performed oral sex on a different man (who came in her mouth) about 1 week ago. There may have been more but she said in the past 3 months those were her only risky activities.

I realize that no matter what anyone tells me, I'm at risk for HIV (& countless other STDs). Being at risk there is no way of having any real peace of mind for the next 3-6 months. But, I'm hoping you can bring clarity to me for the better or worse in terms of how much I should worry. How likely is it that I will contract HIV from this encounter assuming she has recently been infected? Does getting tonsillitis a couple days after suggest that I had open sores on my throat at the time, and how much does that increase the likelihood of infection with tip-of-the-tongue-fellatio?

I've read through countless other Q&A on this site and other sites. Many are similar but none seem to fit well enough to bring any peace. Please help me clarify how at risk I am.

Thank you

[ExtremeStress]

Teak said it well about worrying. Where is it going to get you? You will be negative! I would bet on it if I could. Her and you both testing negative, your doubts about length of exposure 5-10 min , and the risk of your situation (one time vaginal exposure) makes it all to hard to say different. Expect a negative at 3 months.

[saitori]

Thanks Teak. I've posted a couple places and it's nice to hear from someone. I guess I've entered into a state of anxiety and it's difficult to just let it go. It's good to hear that the giving and/or receiving oral is of no concern and the unprotected intercourse is my only risk factor. I've read that there is anywhere between a 1-500 and a 1-2000 chance of infection from vaginal intercourse. Have you (or anyone else) a more definitive and narrowed down percentage? And, how are these numbers affected being that she tested negative the day after?

I know this is obsessive and if I were answering myself I'd just say "chill out. The odds are slim and (like Teak said) there's no point worrying about the inevitable".  I guess it's just nice at a time like this to connect with others and hear them say what I already know (or at least hope) is the case.

So, if anyone knows more about the numbers and how they are affected by her possibly being in the window period of infection please let me know.

Thanks much

[Teak]

The only risk you had was from the broken condom. You were protected until the condom broke. Get your 3 month test and be done with it. I serious doubt that you will test positive. How much should you worry? Why worry at all, worrying can't and won't fix anything.