If you both are in a monogamous relationship and you can rely that he or yourself wouldn't seek unprotected vaginal or anal sex outside this one, it is not going to be a worry for HIV. Although, not using condoms can put you at a risk for pregnancy.
"If" you feel he would dump you for denying him unprotected sex, then you are probably with the wrong guy. If he loves you, he has to take care of you, that's the thumb rule, I guess.
This is an HIV forum, you need to perhaps discuss about such relationship oriented queries at the relevant forum of this website.
The best person to protect you is - yourself. No one else but you have to decide what is right or wrong in your best interest.
I read CurfewX's response to learn that you and your partner are drug users. Based on historical data, for most recreational drug users, especially in their youth; it is evident that promiscuity is a part of their lifestyle choice, that certainly puts you at a high risk for HIV and other STIs should you decide to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex.
Just my 2 cents, neither I am an expert at relationship advice nor this is a place for it but I am going to tell you something, you do nice things for people you love that in turn makes you and the other person better not bad things that bring you down.
It is absolutely ludicrous that he tell you to do the wrong things and most importantly it's not correct on your part to listen to him, respect your self and your body. Do the right thing.
We wish you good luck.