Please help, what is my risk ?

[coolguy45]

I am exploring sexually and recently met a guy and it progressed to sex. Needless to say, I have severe anxiety and need to address that separately with my therapist.  Can you please help me with my risk level ? I am a male.

Deep French Kissing
I anal fingered him
I gave unprotected oral for couple minutes
I received unprotected oral many times (30 mins in total maybe)
Frontage (rubbing penises together to masturbate)
I had protected anal sex (I was insertive)

Needless to say, I’m not doing good mentally. This was my first time doing this.  I really appreciate what you do on here.  It truly is selfless.  Thanks and please let me know if I ruined my life and need to worry.  Thank you.  

[CurfewX]

You will be happy to know that the risks for HIV have not changed since you asked about risks, and were answered, 10 years ago: https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/Please-help-saw-IV-drug-use-any-risks/show/1666212

If you did not have unprotected anal or vaginal sex, and you did not share intravenous needles with someone else, you didn't have a risk for HIV.   Obviously, you wouldn't need to test for this no-risk event.

[coolguy45]

I can’t thank you enough for what you do on here. If I do this activity again with a condom for anal, and it doesn’t break, I can feel confident that I did not put myself at risk, correct ?  

[coolguy45]

Can I really carry on with life and not worry about this ?   Every-time I start to enjoy something, I get caught up in a jolt of anxiety about what I did and if it will lead to HIV.  Please let me know and I will leave you alone. Thanks.

[CurfewX]

I advised you of the only two risks for HIV.  There's nothing to be added to that list.  If you are excessively concerned, see your doctor or a counselor to discuss your anxiety.  

[coolguy45]

OK, I will be seeing a therapist.  Thank you again.

[coolguy45]

I have one final question, please answer, I’m in agony here thinking that I caught HIV. I would pay you if I can. I understand everything is “no risk” , but I can’t get over the fact that I licked the shaft and gave a blow job for 30 seconds or so.  I’m hung up on that because experts and others say “low risk” “1:10,000” .  Am I really at no risk for this encounter ??? He didn’t ejaculate either, I don’t know about pre- cum. Please consider answering to help me out of this deep dark hole I’m in.  Thank you.

[Sara_MHModerator]

Your question has been fully answered by our members and we wish you well.

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[CurfewX]

"Am I really at no risk for this encounter ???"

Asking this question implies that you believe that I, and others who have previously told you you didn't have a risk, have been hiding the truth - aka, lying  - in our previous answers.  I'm not sure why you would suddenly believe us if we told you the same thing a 5th, 6th, 7th, etc. time.