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Anxiety and depression is killing me

I have gone through so many post on this website but I didn’t find any that matched my situation so I decided to ask based on my experience……
Please don’t answer if you don’t have medical training or not an hiv expert ( I don’t want answers from personal experience)..
I had sex with a girl from a party in Nigeria
Few days after the encounter i was down then i took so many antibiotics (both injections, drip and tablets) both it didn’t do much. Few weeks later i had mild sore throat, sore bleeding gums, white tongue, persistent mild fever, of and on headache, diarrhea, colored urine, fatigue, lesions in inner cheek, lesions in tongue, isomenia ( i sleep and wake up at midnight) but I didn’t experience night sweats. All these symptoms has continued till today over 14 weeks now except for the fever and headache. I still have mild sore throat, sore gums, off and on diarrhea, lesions in inner cheek, lesions in tongue, white tongue, colored urine, elongated uvula, fatigue and more other symptoms after my last test like red rashes on my legs and hands, rapid weight loss and I’m eating well, joint pains, muscle ache and something like pimples on my upper lip (its like herpes), stiff neck and something like swollen lymph nodes, I wake up with joint pains and muscle ache and feeling stressed.
My encounter was unprotected Insertive oral I had tiny cuts on my penis due to excessive masturbation and she probably had bleeding gums and sores
She also sucked the tip of my penis after hand job (won’t blood enter directly through the urethra)
Will the present of other STDs increase the risk of transmission??
Also she’s not on med ( High viral load)
I took hiv 2nd gen rapid test at 12 weeks post exposure
I got my result in 30 minutes
Thats 10 weeks after completing the antibiotics and injections
Is my result conclusive ??
Will the antibiotics affect my result??
My school need to do hiv test on students next year I’m really scared
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This is a public website and anyone can answer.  You had zero risk from your exposure. Zero.  HIV is only transmitted from unprotected, penetrating vaginal or anal intercourse or sharing IV needles to inject drugs.  Air and saliva inactivate the virus.  You had no risk and don't even need to test. But since you did and got a negative, I'm not sure why you are asking. Any test you take at 12 weeks or beyond is accurate.  No risk, you do not have HIV.
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You didn’t get my question
I had minor cuts and tear due to excessive masturbation and she was untreated and had bleeding gums
She also sucked the tip and saliva or blood could easily enter directly
The hand job could probably increase the cuts
All the symptoms are very suggestive of ARS
the test I took was a rapid test that gives results in 20 mins and it was in a rural area I guess it may be an outdated test
People are already asking me if am sick or something due to the rapid weight loss, I wake up with joint pains and muscle ache, my neck is stiff and I get pains as if there’s forming there. Anytime I turn my neck, I hear a sound
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (mouth, lips, etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are only 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
Your self reported symptoms might be clouded with emotion because it is unlikely that you just developed a disease that makes your neck click and weight loss and all the other things at the same time. Many people's necks click when they turn or their joints pop but that is not from a disease.
hiv prevention research is 40 years old and well proven so not controversial. No one will disagree with what GR said, so you should accept it and move on, stop studying your body, and you might find that there are no problems. You don't know what lymph are supposed to feel like so should stop irritating it and then incorrectly self diagnosing the only disease you can think of - that is making you scared.
It is not like surgery where you have to check around to make sure the surgeon is not overly aggressive.
So what you are saying is that receiving oral sex with cuts and bleeding gums is not a risk for hiv??
What if the tip of the penis gets in direct contact with sore inside the throat
NO ONE has ever gotten HIV from receiving oral sex.   Receiving oral sex is not a risk for HIV, no matter what.
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