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Oral sex with possible HIV+ person on meds


I'm a queer guy. Recently I've engaged in mutual oral sex with a good friend of mine whom I thought I could trust. There was no anal sex though he fingered me briefly.
There was no ejaculation though there might have been precum. I didn't notice any cuts or sores in my mouth at that time but I noticed a slight bleeding on my gums  a few days later due to an abrasion from my partial dentures.
After leaving his appartment room I noticed a large container of Prezista, a HIV drug. I freaked out and asked him about it. He told me those meds are not his and that I should not be worried. He recently broke up with his boyfriend and I assumed they were his. Yet I am still concerned because he could be lying.

What if he was HIV positive using medication? What is my risk of contracting HIV if I had bleeding gums at that time?

Thank you for your time.
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HIV is spread by unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing IV drug needles. Air and saliva inactivate the virus and this is why oral sex is not a route of transmission.  There's never been a documented, proven case of HIV from oral sex.  So, even oral sex with an HIV+ friend is not going to create a risk for you.  You are safe.
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
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