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Worried about being infected
I've been an idiot for so long, and worried about being infected from HIV. I've been dating a married man - just this man. Before dating him, I've had a test for HIV and it came out negative.
He suppousedly said he only had sex with his wife and me after all, but I wouldn't know, he was a cheater what so ever.
I had sex with him on a non regular basis during March - June 2010.
Then stopped seeing him till December, and we had sex there, he didn't finish inside me or anything, but we had a little intercourse with no condom (vaginal, we never had anal).
I got tested with the ELISA test like 2 days after having sex with him that time in December and it came out negative.
But I also got another tests and it turned out that I have the HPV.
I then after 2-3 weeks started feeling some of the well known HIV symptoms such as muscular pain, articulations pain, sore lymphs... etc. Those symptoms still last till now (February 9th), so it's been like at least 1 month. They are very mild, sometimes I don't even feel them, so I'm not sure.
I've been psycho over this. Like I can't stop thinking of it, of being infected, along with the guilt of being with the married man. It's killing me. And now I'm way too scared to take another test.
I'm scared of being infected by him the last time in December.
He's 33 and doesn't look unhealthy or anything, but I'm not sure about his sexual past because he's a true liar. He said he got tested when he got married, 5 years ago.
It also worries me that he just had a kid (1 year ago) and recently his kid needed a blood transfusion and he didn't donate because he said he had hepatitis as a kid (?) and he says he can't donate.
So scared, can't even function.
I just care for dissappointing my parents and giving them this horrible experience to have an infected daughter after all the good they've done to me. I want to die.
Thanks for your response.
He suppousedly said he only had sex with his wife and me after all, but I wouldn't know, he was a cheater what so ever.
I had sex with him on a non regular basis during March - June 2010.
Then stopped seeing him till December, and we had sex there, he didn't finish inside me or anything, but we had a little intercourse with no condom (vaginal, we never had anal).
I got tested with the ELISA test like 2 days after having sex with him that time in December and it came out negative.
But I also got another tests and it turned out that I have the HPV.
I then after 2-3 weeks started feeling some of the well known HIV symptoms such as muscular pain, articulations pain, sore lymphs... etc. Those symptoms still last till now (February 9th), so it's been like at least 1 month. They are very mild, sometimes I don't even feel them, so I'm not sure.
I've been psycho over this. Like I can't stop thinking of it, of being infected, along with the guilt of being with the married man. It's killing me. And now I'm way too scared to take another test.
I'm scared of being infected by him the last time in December.
He's 33 and doesn't look unhealthy or anything, but I'm not sure about his sexual past because he's a true liar. He said he got tested when he got married, 5 years ago.
It also worries me that he just had a kid (1 year ago) and recently his kid needed a blood transfusion and he didn't donate because he said he had hepatitis as a kid (?) and he says he can't donate.
So scared, can't even function.
I just care for dissappointing my parents and giving them this horrible experience to have an infected daughter after all the good they've done to me. I want to die.
Thanks for your response.
Yes! A negative 6 week antibody test is 95% conclusive. It's highly unlikely that it'll turn positive . But you should definitely get tested at the 3 month mark just to be 100% sure. But getting a negative result now should lessen your anxiety .
Good Luck!
Good Luck!
Do you think I should test now? it's been 6 weeks. It drives me crazy, I couldn't sleep last night.
Thanks for this moral help after all.
Thanks for this moral help after all.
You put yourself at risk by having unprotected sex with someone with unknown status. The chances you were infected are low BUT real.
You could ask the guy to test, He can take a rapid test and have the results within minutes, but even if he has a NEG test you are still required to test at 3 months due to he may be in his "Window Period"
Testing should not be scary, It is better to know your status the to go through life worring about the unknown. Get tested it will likely be NEG
Hope this helps
You could ask the guy to test, He can take a rapid test and have the results within minutes, but even if he has a NEG test you are still required to test at 3 months due to he may be in his "Window Period"
Testing should not be scary, It is better to know your status the to go through life worring about the unknown. Get tested it will likely be NEG
Hope this helps
Thanks NickOne7
In the meanwhile, while the 3 months haven't passed, what do you think? Should I be worried? I seriously can't stop thinking of this, of the probabilities, etc.
Do you think I should demand the dude to get tested?
I don't know if I'll have the strength to get tested again, I'm so damn scared.
In the meanwhile, while the 3 months haven't passed, what do you think? Should I be worried? I seriously can't stop thinking of this, of the probabilities, etc.
Do you think I should demand the dude to get tested?
I don't know if I'll have the strength to get tested again, I'm so damn scared.
Married or not - Once a cheater always a cheater, You need to get tested for HIV 3 months after your last unprotected exposure for a conclusive result.
Your symptoms mean nothing testing is the only way to be sure of your status.
Also to clear your mind on the Hep thing, Kids can get Hep from there mother at birth and can clear the virus. Even after clearing hep they are never allowed to donate blood again.
Get tested the odds are on your side you were not infected.
Hope this helps
Your symptoms mean nothing testing is the only way to be sure of your status.
Also to clear your mind on the Hep thing, Kids can get Hep from there mother at birth and can clear the virus. Even after clearing hep they are never allowed to donate blood again.
Get tested the odds are on your side you were not infected.
Hope this helps
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