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condom failure at massage parlor
I just wanted to know your thoughts about my situation...About 2 weeks ago I went to a massage parlor in Hawaii. Before we started having sex she had told me that we use condoms here...so towards the end sex we realized that the condom had come off. I was intoxicated that night as I came from a bar with friends. This is the first time I had dont something like this and I definitely will not go back afte this experience. But the first thing she had asked me was, "when was the last time you got tested?"...I had asked her the same and she said last week. I actually went back 2 days later to talk to her and she was more than willing to talk to me about the incident. She told me that yes siad did get tested last week and everything was negative an even tested 3 weeks prior to that. She claims that she tests herself at least once a month if not twice. Shes been going to her doctor for the past 4 years. She is currently going to school and has her reasons for being there. She claims that she does have a bf. I have no reason to beleive that she would lie to me. I tested for all stds and hiv the day after and all negative. Tested 7 days later for hiv pcr rna viral load and doctor said it was negative. I tested a week and a half for stds at a free std clinic and my results are still pending. I took a orasure test at 2 weeks negative. I plan to get tested for all stds and hiv at exactly 3 weeks. I am going to see an infectious disease doctor to get his opinion on my situation. Pls let me know your thoughts about my risk of acquiring hiv. thank you so much!
no of course not...it happened only once, a week after the incident. i feel terrible. I wasnt in the right state of mind when i did it. I told myself I should be fine cause i got tested and it was all negative. but then i started to think and did some research and i started to realize for some stds and hiv it was too soon. but ever since that one time me and my gf always practive safe sex. we use condoms for oral sex and vaginal sex all the time now. im half way there and im waiting for the 12 week mark to get tested for all stds and hiv to make sure im clear. until then me and my gf are practicing safe sex, it was only that one time we had unprotected sex, a week after the incident and i feel terrible. but im tryna do the right thing now by getting tested and practicing safe sex w/ her.
given her testing history...it is unlikely that you were infected from this incident.
stop with the weekly tests...that is ridiculous. one test, done 3 months post exposure, will give you a conclusive result.
are you telling us that you are still having unprotected sex with your girlfriend???????
stop with the weekly tests...that is ridiculous. one test, done 3 months post exposure, will give you a conclusive result.
are you telling us that you are still having unprotected sex with your girlfriend???????
Its been 6 weeks now and ive been alot better since the incident. but jus today, i started thinking bout it again because i noticed my gf has been sneezing alot and rubbing her nose frquently cause its itchy. It her allergies she claims but ive never seen it that bad w/ her until recently. also the thing that worries me is that she mentioned that she has been having really sore stomach every 2-4 days and that her stools consistency hasnt been consistent, formed and hard, then soft and watery, but she said majority of the times its formed. After she goes to the bathroom she feels alot better right after, and its not sore anymore. but what bothers me is that it only started happening recently for about 3-4 weeks and its every 2-4 days. not everyday. She doesnt feel sick or anything and she claims its prb. the food that she has been eating. im jus really worried that i gave her something. Ive tested numerous times since the incident. the day after, a week after, a week and a half after for all stds and hiv and came out negative. ive gone to the life foundation where they give free hiv orasure testing. I went for weeks 2, 3, 4, and 5 and all negative. I go back this week exactly 6 weeks and getting tested for hiv "viral load, and anitbodies, syphillis, and herpes HSV 1 and 2. pls can some one give me feedback? is my gf experiencing signs and symptoms of stds or hiv? she says she feels fine and not sick at all. I feel fine and i havent had any signs or symptoms of stds or hiv. Im pretty sure im just paranoid bout my gf's sore stomach and allergies but i dont want to hurt her. thanks!
Nope...anyone in the sex trade industry is probably going to test on a regular basis. But still a 3 month test would be recommended.
does it make a difference wether it was a professional escort or massage parlor? just out of curiosity. When I posted my situation the 1st time round I did not know what to make of my situation so I had it as "professional escort" rather then "massage parlor". I dont mean to post my situation again, but I havent posted anything close to three weeks now. I just wanted to know if it makes a difference. thanks you. I would really appreciate your opinions as I have updated my status on my situation.
Go back and read your 1st post in this community and you will see you have already been answered.
To add to my situation...she claims that the last incident this had happened to her was 3-4 months ago.
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