Oral sex, aphtha

[Quel0705]

Hi! What is the risk of contracting HIV via oral sex if the receptive partner has an aphtha in the mouth?

This article says that "any break in the skin puts a person at risk for transmitting or contracting the virus": https://www.healthline.com/health/oral-sex-hiv#other-risk-factors

[GuitarRox]

This is a moderated forum that has staff that makes sure accurate information is posted.  It's guided by doctors who specialize in HIV.  They are clear about the only three ways people get HIV.  These are having unprotected vaginal sex, unprotected anal sex or sharing IV drug needles. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. This is the only answer you will get here because it is correct. There has not been a single documented and proven case of HIV being transmitted in the manner you suggest. You aren't going to be the first. No risk.

[Quel0705]

Why does every website say that the risk of oral sex is higher (hence nonzero) if there are cuts/sores in the mouth? That's what confuses me.

[Sara_MHModerator]

Your question has been answered by our members that you have NO risk.

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[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (penis, maybe cuts, maybe blood etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are only 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe.
Yesterday you were also worrying about touching and were advised of the only 3 above. Next time you get worried ask yourself the QUESTION above.