Sexual recklessness and HIV

[ninaregrets]

Hi,
Long story short I went on an eight day trip to new york for business. We had a free day and I went out with the guy I met on the trip. He invited me to a party but we met in his hotel room. We took some drugs (something i did when I was younger but hadn't done in many years), he then revealed it was an underwear party and told me I could decide. I was on drugs and thought that if I am getting y married in a couple of weeks I could have a reckless night as my bahelorette party. It just made sense. Anyway, at first the party was just a bunch of people in undies, I felt ok and started drinking. Later the party turned into something sexual, by this poit I was out of it and just let go. I did nothing but make out with a couple of men and women at first, but as the party progressed a couple of guys approached me and it lead to me giving oral sex to 3 different guys through the night. One of which ejaculated in my mouth. Then some people started leaving, including one of the guys, who offered me a ride. Next day I realized how stupid I'd been. I've been regretting this night for more than two weeks. Now, I read about hiv right on that day,  and people have different opinions. I read on this website some of you think that oral sex is a risk and some think it isn't.



Also, I have this soar throat. I got it 2 days after my sexual eperience. I started taking antibiotics -Amoxicillin- because the doctor thought it might've been an infection. However it came back yesterday and that's why I'm worried now. Here's the catch. i told the doctor about my experience and thought that if I was infected by the possible stds the antibiotics would clear them out.  There were no sores on the men so he discarded syphilis, given its rarity. But HIV is common in new york and I can't help but wonder if I made a mistake. My fiance and I got tested a year ago when whe moved in together and decide to stop using a condom. I can't believe I cheated on him. I don feel terrible and I won't let it happen again. But this is something I can't possibly tell him and I need guidance.

[ninaregrets]

hi, can anyone explain why isn't hiv transmission possible through oral sex???

[paranoidstd]

Just to give you some relief. The mouth is very hostile to hiv. And after the mouth is your stomach that basically kills any hiv that gets there. For your peace of mind have a duo test at 28 days expect it to be negative.

[ninaregrets]

Hi, thanks for the reply. I think I will get tested, however I don't know if i can keep my fiane at arms lenghth anymore. Why do you think I'm safe?

[JamesD1991]

I see no reason for testing.  Because you are pretty worked up over this, you can take a DUO test at 28 days.   But you will only receive your inevitably negative result