CONDOM SLIP OFF OUTSIDE

[just_curious007]

Hi dear friends, last night I have protected blowjob and then continue to protected penetration with her on top of me, we did it in driver seat. During penetration, I can see the condom still intact, she had 2 orgasm and after that I saw the condom still there but I can feel a a slippage during movement. After that, we decided to end it with handjob, so she pulled out and return to passange seat. But when she pulled out and move to her seat, I saw the condom lying down near my pubic hair. I checked the condom and it's filled with my semen, quite a lot of semen inside but the condom seems not being rolled back, it's just getting removed in whole peace with semen inside. She said that during intercourse, she touch my penis and the condom still there. This is just my one single intercourse. What do you think the likelihood to become infected in this way?

Please help, I can't focus on my job.
Should I ask her for test right now? It's really killing me for waiting like this :(

[Sara_MHModerator]

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[just_curious007]

@CurfewX But is there any way that the condom came off during intercourse but end up not stuck inside, but fell off outside? I still remember the feeling when she withdrew her vagina, I feel something different like something get off, like tingling sensation, she felt it too, she moans. Could be the ring of condom got pulled off and rub my penis neck?

[AnxiousNoMore]

The ring holds the condom onto your rigid penis. It can't hold it if your penis goes soft. Therefore, you wouldn't be having intercourse if you went soft and the condom fell off outside. You're  dreaming if you think she and you 2 were thinking the same thoughts. All she cared about was your money and how to end the session, so your attempt to link her actions with noticing a condom falling off are just your imagination and her good acting playing tricks with you.  

[just_curious007]

@anxiousnomore I don't understand what you mean by playing tricks? All I can see during intercourse is her underpants, a small movement up and down on top of me to avoid shaking car and I see no condom outside. It's just when she pulled out and return to her seat, I quickly notice the condom on pubic near my belly. It's not my imagination, I told you what I felt the moment she pulled off.  This is second, recent intercourse after few years ago of my First Time in my life of sex, the unprotected encounter where the girl has been tested 3x times negative duo CMIA for 1,3,8 months. I am sexually passive.

[just_curious007]

What should I do? :( I know you guys were not there with me, that's why I try to tell you the detail of the event, was it really high risk? :(

[just_curious007]

Additional, she was wearing underpants during intercourse. Before she pulled out, I did not see anything on my belly near pubic hair, but after she pulled out and return the her seat, I saw the condom there.

Please any insight really appreciated :(

[CurfewX]

It's hard to picture what happened here.  If the head of your penis was covered during intercourse, and the condom only came off when you withdrew your penis, then you had no risk for HIV.  If it came off during intercourse, then you had a risk.

Your partner's test will only be helpful if she has not had intercourse with anyone else in the past month. If she has not had intercourse with anyone else in the past month, and if she takes a 4th-generation test now and is negative, then she did not have HIV when you had intercourse with her.

[just_curious007]

Hi @CurfewX glad to have you here.
I can tell that during intercourse, we cannot move too much because we did in car to avoid people attention. I occasionally look into my belly and her belly and I what I saw is just her underpants, no condom there fall off yet, meaning it was intact, and if it's came off during intercourse, it would be stuck inside from I have read on forum, right? But right after she withdrew and trying to move back to the seat, I noticed a condom on my pubic area with lot of my semen inside. I checked it, the fluid still inside. I plan to get her tested in a week from now, and once more test for her in 8 weeks from now, should I?

[AnxiousNoMore]

The condom was filled with semen yet you think it came off before you ejaculated? You're making zero sense. Maybe see a therapist to try to calm you down so you can live your normal life again instead of all this worry about imaginary condom falling off then back on so semen can get into it, then back off again.

[CurfewX]

I am here to provide HIV risk and testing advice - not try to guess what might have happened during an event at which I was not present.

A 4th generation test is reliable and accurate when taken at least 28 days after a risk event.  Any other test is reliable and accurate 90 days after a risk event.  Testing before the window periods I mentioned will not give reliable or conclusive results.

[just_curious007]

I am sorry for double response @anxiousnomore I was not ejaculated inside her. She was orgasm on top of me and then we decided that her make me cum using hand, so she pulled off, and that's when I saw the condom on my pubic hair, came off with semen fluid filled inside.

[just_curious007]

@CurfewX Should I take her for a duo test next week? Let's assume that her last sex was 1 or 2 weeks ago, because she is not CSW, she works at Car Garage, probably not frequently having sex. If negative at least before this year ends, at least it can be quite reassuring for me :( please help what should I do and according to you for what I have describe of the event, is it high risk?

[CurfewX]

No, under no circumstances is a one-time vaginal sex event high risk.  It's like 0.04% risk - meaning 99.96% NOT a risk.

As for your other questions, are you even reading my posts? It doesn't seem like it. I have answered your questions about testing.

[just_curious007]

Hi @CurfewX Yes I did read it, apology for my recurrent question. Not a risk because of probably the condom came off when withdrawal or because of assuming unprotected vaginal sex? Why is that so low? Which is I am so happy to hear that !!!

By the way, I recently talk to her on phone call, we still making friends and I asked her when was she had sex, she refused to say at first, last night she refused too but I asked her smoothly and she finally told me it was 1 month ago with her EX. I asked her again "What about last one or two weeks ago?" She replied the same again "It was a month ago".

I will take her for test next week then will take her again for test on last january next year to have complete testing and then move along with my life. What do you think? Does it sound overly conservative?

[GuitarRox]

Sincerely, you are a little over the top here and need to get your anxiety under control. I feel bad for the girl that she now has to deal with your over the top anxiety when you were right there with her having sex. If you feel compelled (although she certainly doesn't have to comply), she could take a test right now if she tested a month ago. Because making her test twice is just as bad as your continuing to test. If you want immediate dopamine hit to quell your anxiety, get her tested now. But then leave the poor girl alone. That's my honest advice. You can't make your anxiety everyone else's problem.

[just_curious007]

@GuitarRox Thank you for the help :) I am little bit relieved now. I think she never get tested for STD. We are still in friendship and I promise to send her money occasionally. I know it would make her hurt to follow my anxiety :( I try to be gently and soft to ask her for STD screening and health check ups too, and I'll pay for it. I really hope she will be comfortable with that for mutual goodness, hope so :) at least this week or maybe next week I will take her for test and will post it here. Her negative results will make me move on but if she is comfortable with a test on january, I will do it for her, but if not I will test my self on febuary and then put this all behind and move on.

Again, I will be back with the result, please moderator don't close the thread :( I thank you all of you for sharing thoughts and really happy when @CurfewX give me low risk estimation and @AnxiousNoMore  @GuitarRox saying that I am in over anxiety, that means no worry for this event right? But still my anxiety pushes me to do a test for her, pardon me haha.

[GuitarRox]

You've been told it is low risk. If you are friends with her, spare her your anxiety. leave her alone. If you feel there was a chance you were unprotected inside of her, take a 4th generation test at 28 days and expect it to be negative. Everything else you are doing is anxiety driven and you need to get a grip on that.

[just_curious007]

@GuitarRox Apologize, should I take her today or wait one week more? I guess more than 5 weeks is better than 4 weeks right?

[just_curious007]

@GuitarRox I don't feel that I was inside her as I described above but to kill my anxiety down to the hell and make it never come back, I am gonna take her for test. It's no way for me to test myself, gonna wait for 28 days from now :(

[just_curious007]

I mean I don't feel that I was inside her inprotected.

[GuitarRox]

This is the last post. WE can not help you with out of control anxiety nor can this poor girl. That's a you problem. Not an everyone else's problem. I feel bad for her that she is going to be in a position now of dealing with you when you are acting like this. Get a grip on your anxiety. Don't take her to test. just test yourself at 28 days. LEAVE HER ALONE. That's really the right thing to do. You plan to test any way at 28 days. Save her the headache and yourself and just get busy with other things until then. Treat your anxiety disorder if you need to. "I mean I don't feel that I was inside her unprotected'. Then stop allowing your anxiety to waste everyone's time (including yours), okay?

[just_curious007]

@GuitarRox Roger that ! I am so sorry for my anxiety, I know if I were you guys dealing with a person like me, will be a much frustating. I will ask her for a complete health check up including STD, maybe she wants to know her health status too and I'll pay for it. She has confirmed that she is okay and would happy to have a test too. I think it's a good win win solution, rather than me myself wait for 28 days with anxiety killing me when I attend new year party. Her one negative result will make me move on. I am so sorry again, not because I don't follow you guys advice, really much appreciate it but it's my anxiety rushing. But you guys actually have eased my anxiety, really !!

I will be back with the result in this week :)

[GuitarRox]

I'm not frustrated. But I' also not responsible to keep ruminating with you because you have anxiety. I hope if you force her to succumb to your anxiety that you do it just one time and then leave the poor girl alone. NO need to come back with her result. We aren't following this like it is the same situation you are. Take your test at 28 days. Then be done with it but sincerely, you should talk to a doctor about the real problem here which is anxiety.