Hello, I have a few problems right now resulting from a holiday in Thailand. Also, i am currently on a working holiday in Japan which makes testing etc. a little difficult.
The Mistakes - One unprotected Oral Sex with a ladyboy - Said she/he didnt have HIV and also said she could show me her results card. Also it was not from the street - but from one of the famous ladyboy bars in that area - She also mentioned they get tested to work there...and that workers on the street were dangerous. Slightly worrying - (not pleasent picture i know) when she spat into the toilet after i had finished (technique - when you try to clear your nose by sniffing hard and spit) there was some blood in the mucus...not saliva.
Mistake two - Condom Slipped down exposing my shaft but not the delicate area of skin - the condom prevented me from cuming inside her. Again, not from the street and denied having HIV - I also like to think that her using a condom says she doesnt want to catch anything also. But ofcourse, who knows.
It is definite that i have caught genital herpes from the symptoms although this has now been put back to bed after 3-4 weeks since exposure. At first it wasnt even that bad - but then i used some cream from a doctor which im sure made the problem worse. Is it possible the cream made it worse? Anyway i decided to stop using it and keep the area as dry as possible. The symptoms came fairly quickly - as soon as i got back to Japan...and i also felt run down (nothing too serious but not 100%) My Stomach was also in a bad state. However this can all be explained to travelling and excess drinking plus the aquisition of herpes. I also had some sweats aswell ....but this all went away within a week or so. My concern is that these symptoms could be linked with early HIV.
I havent had a test for the herpes just visual check...so have no idea if it is type 1 or 2...which would give me an idea who gave it to me. I am a fit person (ex army) and eat very well so am confident herpes wont bother me in the future. To be honest, i have done this kind of holiday in the past and got away with it before - so i needed the herpes to give me a kick up the arse. So providing its just herpes - im glad. I deserved it and needed it to stop me from being stupid in the future.
Anyway, my worrying and anxiety has got increasingly worse - the other day i could feel my heart beating on the train, felt like crying and became nauseus with loss of apetite. I couldnt relax that night and had no sleep. The same with the next night. I then got a headache and aching in my neck, maybe lymph nodes...as if my pulse was doing overtime. High blood pressure? I also got very drunk last night which has made the headache worse and also my throat doesnt feel great. None of my other glands feel swollen i.e armpits, groin. The herpes has not come out to say hello again either. Could this be a sign of early symptoms? I hope with the timing of severe anxiety and stress it can all be put down to that.
Im nearly at the one month point since possible exposure. I will get tested once i workout how to do it in Japan. I pray i havent made the biggest mistake of my life, im changing my ways now as life is very good and will stop this kind of behaviour. Lets just hope this is a valuable lesson learned. So - could you tell me about my risks? And how accurate testing at one month is? any advice is much appreciated - i want to sleep without worrying.
Thanks very much, Sam