Hey I totally feel for ya. Thats why I say you cant trust anyone unless you now them really well or see their results on paper. Some guys dont care about people and will do ANYTHING to get sexual pleasure, your very fortunate you didnt have unprotected sex with him. Thats good because as you have read already, oral sex is extremly low risk. That guy is evil and deserves to go to jail whether you get it or not. He pretty much in a way put your life at risk. What an *******. Dont worry youl test negative and 6 weeks should be plenty of time.
Oh, and choose your partners better. This guy is an ******* and deserves to rot in hell, or in a jail cell.
Oral is very low risk and you started PEP at once. So you should be fine. On the other hand, I really think you would have noticed if he ****** you or not. Fingers feel pretty different than a penis up your ***!!
Josh
I pray for you and you would be alright. hold strong I know its really hard to do but i also know that we are humans and despite trying our best give up to certain situations.
May God bless you.
thankyou once again for your confidence building words. Im not an island and every so often i need someone like you to help me feign off paranoia, anxiety, stress, and mostly self-doubt.
I have decided that i am going to get a blood test done on the 29th. By that time, 6 weeks will have passed from July the 16th which is the date when this all transpired! I think our beloved forum doctor stated that 6wk tests have 95% accuracy, while not a 100%, should be very reassuring.
thanks for ur interest regularjoey and fast response. IN specific response to ur original response, believe me i have learned from this experience. A lot of people say that they learn from things and then go onto re-experience the same horrifying things in different ways. Maybe im the same. I dont know. A part of me wants to see him again, a part of me wants him to come to the doctors with me on August 29th (WED of this week), a part of me wants to hug him and say i feel ur pain but why did you have to try and complicate my life? If i ever contract HIV, i would be so horrified to put someone at risk that i KNOW that i could not engage in sexual relations with someone who didnt have HIV. I would never want to drag someones lfie down like he has mine.
Additionally, i am concerned with the number of other fellows that he has said he has been involved with and not told his status to (either until after or never at all). He said that he has never gotten any backlash or feedback from previous partners about being infected.
I dont know if he is a liar or not though, so im interested in bringing him to my doctor to see if my doctor would do a viral load test on him.
Additionally, i wanted to ask, because i was sick at the time of our interaction (i had a cold), am i more receptive to the virus? IM guessing that this would be the case since my immune system is lowered and the virus has a more probable chance of penetrating my system if fluids were passed through.
just some considerations.
Yes, and by the way, he should have informed you of his status regardless of the level of risk. The law on this may differ from state to state, but you can probably charge him if you wanted to. In some places this qualifies as an "assault with a deadly weapon" or "attempted murder" - from what I heard.
High viral load makes HIV transmission more likely, for obvious reasons. But your risk was so low that it wouldn't matter even if his viral load was in the millions.
HIV isn't an easy virus to transmit. Even if you had sex with him, chances would still be in your favor for not getting the virus from a one-time encounter.
Your risk was really low. You might need to start thinking about the negative test that you are going to get when you test anytime after three months from this situation. That could make you feel better.
Good Luck
R.J
thanks for the reassuring words.
Ive learned that when it comes to HIV, rationality does not even work. I think back on the number of times i performed fellatio on him, or when he was behind me penetrating me with his fingers, and i just shudder. I know because he didnt ejaculate in my mouth that my chances are less, but i cant even get over the fact that such a small change in what we did could result (and might still) in me having a life ending illness.
Not only that, the fact that he lied to me, straight faced, before anything happened. I feel so dirty. Almost like i had just been raped. I wouldnt have engaged in anything i did, or at least i would have had all the information to work with if he had JUST TOLD ME INSTEAD OF LYING TO ME.
I asked around the legalities of this, and apparently because we engaged in low risk behaviour there are no grounds for charging him, despite the fact that he lied to me repeatedly. How can you decide if you want to engage in such acts if someone hides their identity???? ****.
And yes i did insist on a condom, and yes he did try and **** me but it didnt work for whatever reason....im pretty sure it was his conscience. or may gods intervention. I dont know. I still feel like i might be HIV positive.
What does the cp4 count mean? His was 800 and something. And his viral load, what does that have to do with possible contraction? Do i trust his word about that or do i call him up and bring him to a doctor so we can find that out for sure?
Idont even know.
You were not at risk and make sure you always use water base lube.
Now,....HEAR THIS.. (OR READ IT):
LEARN FROM THIS LESSON.....PLEASE!!
You are young and ALWAYS.....I repeat ...ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NOW ON.
USE CONDOMS. You will be just fine from this sexperience.....but learn NOW.
You will test negative.
Best Wishes and STAY SAFE.
Brian
I agree with your doctors, there is nothing for you to worry about. In fact, I would have advised you not to take PEP for this.