Could I be living with undiagnosed hiv?

[Rlawler09]

Hello all. I believe that I am living with undiagnosed hiv after an encounter last year. I had sex with a trans prostitute and I was really drunk. And maybe a little under a month later I became very sick with a fever and body aches and what I think was a little rash on my chest but when I went to the er they didn’t see it, maybe it went away when I get there? They sent me away with antibiotics and I was better a day or two later. It’s been a little over a year now and since then I have got pneumonia once, I have aches in my elbows, white circular spots on my tongue that come and go randomly and for the last few days what feels like a canker sore on the side of my tongue. I have read that these can be indicative of a compromised immune system. I am scared to death that I have infected my partner because we have had unprotected sex since then.

[Rlawler09]

So an update. I went to see an ENT doctor about my tongue and he said it’s a yeast infection. Could I have had a yeast infection for over a year?! Is this HIV related?!

[Chima7]

Nope. Anyone can get that at anytime for any reason. Babies even get it sometimes. It's not that big of a deal. Get some prescription mouthwash from your ENT and move on with your life.

[mike_no]

Oral sex, despite of being unprotected is not a risk. Condoms protect against HIV transmission.

HIV is essentially a sexually transmitted disease, risk for HIV contraction is when you insert your penis inside of a vagina or anus with out a condom. A finger is not a penis and therefore there is no risk involved.

You never had a risk and do not need to test, you are wasting your time worrying over something that is non-existent.

Please see a therapist for your anxiety, you dont have HIV, move on.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Anyone can get pneumonia so it is just bad luck that you happened to be one. Likely the spots that come and go are a case of you over examining your body looking for symptoms of a disease you don't have.

[Rlawler09]

Thank you both, it’s just a little worrying that these symptoms are of people with hiv, or well I think they are. And happy 4th if you guys are located in the US.

[AnxiousNoMore]

They are also symptoms of lots of things - including an overactive worried imagination. It is like a guy who trips walking across the street and gets a bruise when he lands - that doesn't mean he  got the bruise from being hit by a car.

[CurfewX]

At this point, you're creating your own misery.  Any test you take now will be both accurate and conclusive.

[Rlawler09]

Does that mean that these symptoms are related???

[CurfewX]

How in the world did you read "you should just test" to mean, "these symptoms are related?"  Dude, you need to get some control over your anxiety, because that isn't even implied in what I said.

Also, reading about your event - you had ZERO risk for HIV.  Symptoms cannot be related to a disease you were never exposed to.  

HIV risks are:
1) having unprotected, penetrative anal or vaginal sex, and
2) sharing intravenous drug needles.

You didn't do either of those, and if you never do either of those (with someone of unknown status) you will never have to worry about HIV.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Firstly, was it oral or anal and did you use a condom?

[Rlawler09]

It was both oral was unprotected and anal was protected but I was drunk and couldn’t stay erect so she finished me with oral. I fingered her too, what if I had a cut on my hand???