99% sure i got Hiv from handjob

[HopingForMercy]

So I never had any form of sex b4 with anyone. I met this girl on the internet and talked to her off and on for 5 years before finally meeting her. She refused to say how many people she slept with but has told me about a lot of boyfriends she slept with unprotected. So I drive to meet her and plan to stay with her for 4 days but, not planning to have sex just get drunk and full around a little and just finally meet her. So we get drunk make out and she gives me a hand job. Half hour later same thing but she has me finger her. Then a half hour later I finger her deep for like 5 mins. Immediately after I take my middle finger out without wiping it on anything she grabs my hand and wipes my finger clean with her hand and immediately starts to masterbate the head of my penis, until the act is done. This is the only act we did. 3 Days later I started to get soaking night sweats that lasted 2 weeks and has recurred off an on 2 weeks later. Extreme fatigue for over a month now. Extreme headaches for a month straight. Stiff neck for a month. Ulcers in my mouth i can feel with my tongue. Extreme muscle fatigue from working doing the stuff ive always done and my legs are sore for days. Complete change in bowel movement diarahii that has been off and on for a month. Tingling sensation in arms and legs, and pain in my left side, which has led to blood flow issues in my left shoulder at times. Im pretty coordinated and have been dropping things/neurological issues. Uncontrollable shaking in my legs when i woke up a couple times. Rash that appeared on my left elbow three weeks later. Never had a problem getting erection b4 now cant get an erection without touching penis(unrelated possible due to dry humping). Tingling and frequent need to urinate in urethra diagnosed with a urinary track infection. Change of conciousness for first two weeks after it happened.  Excessive sweating from any activity even in air condition. Still having these neourlogical problems currently, excessive sweating, neck stiffness, extreme fatigue muscle fatigue, depression, mouth ulcers, rash started to subside. Told girl about these problems and first she said she got tested for hiv/stds a year ago, then she changed it to three months ago but, said she had unprotected sex with two guys since then. I got tested at 3 weeks with ag/ab test is was negative and got tested at 5 weeks with a rapid at the clinic negative. Girl said some weird things when I asked her about, stds and hiv. Like if i gave you hiv we can get married and when I persisted on talking about her sex life to access my risk and if she would possible get tested, she said, Im a pervert, to never call her again, and she doesn't want to know if I have HIV. So im taking another test at 6 weeks CMIA but, I think im in serious trouble here?

[Teak]

HIV is not transmitted by masturbation.

HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug abusers
Mother to child

[RainLover71]

No risk--you're worrying for nothing.

[HopingForMercy]

I hope you guys are right, my Doc says its extremely low risk. But these symptoms are not going away. I got a full panel done on my health and everything came up clean. Im just having all these problems and once I looked them up on the internet after being sick for like two weeks, I have had every symptom of acute hiv infection.

[Teak]

Your doctor is totally incorrect.  You are have ARS because you never had an exposure.

[HopingForMercy]

Im not trying to be the first Virgin to get HIV through a method that has no risk. But, you guys dont know me so I can see you not trusting what I say as truth. But if you believe what i'm telling you with the symptoms, I described does this not sound like HIV? Ill get tested at 6 weeks and 3 months and ill let you guys know how it goes, thanks for the words of positive encouragement.

[Teak]

You won't. Your symptoms have nothing to do with HIV.

[RainLover71]

Find another doctor because your current doctor knows nothing about HIV modes of transmission..

[HopingForMercy]

Hope your right bro. I mean based on how this girl reacted it seems highly likely she knows she has it or doesnt want to know which is unresponseable to others. Her last boyfriend was a druggie in rehab about a year ago so that scares me to.(not sure IV) At the end of the day dont get drunk and do stuff with strangers.  Lesson learned and I hope I dont have to pay for it the rest of my life.  Thanks

[Teak]

It wouldn't matter if she was positive or not. You never had an exposure.

[RainLover71]

You never had a risk--you can relax

[HopingForMercy]

The one thing else I forgot to mention is.  I do get which i think are boyles under my stomach and have a couple on the top of my bladder which poped and are flat now, When she went down on me she got some of the fluid on those getting to my penis. Is that a possible cause for concern?

[Teak]

No it's not. HIV is unable to reproduce outside its living host (unlike many bacteria or fungi, which may do so under suitable conditions), except under laboratory conditions; therefore, it does not spread or maintain infectiousness outside its host.

[HopingForMercy]

Thanks man. Its just it happened so quick after and I know I fingered her deep and kind of rough with my middle finger. And I didn't even look at the symptoms for two weeks, so when I did and still do have severe symptoms its just hard to not think that I do. But, im gonna try and calm down, you guys are saying no risk so that helps. Ill do the 6 week test(as well as get tested for mono and lymes disease) and the 3 month one for peace of mind and its in Gods hands now i guess, but thanks.

[HopingForMercy]

I hear you man and its definately added to the problems. And the big thing I forgot to mention is ive lost 14 pounds without exercise and reducing eating during this sickness.286 to 272 in about a month. When you add that up with getting tingling problems in arms and legs, left side pain/back pain extreme muscle fatigue from squating to run stock, where im having pain walking days after.  Night sweats, rash, bowel issues, blood flow issues, extreme fatigue, stiff neck that still hasnt gone away other then the rash and night sweats. When I go to the gym all the time and felt fine b4 this happened. Honestly, if its not HIV its probably worse.

[Teak]

See a doctor if you are concerned it doesn't have anything to do with HIV.

[helpme2222]

my friend is a doctor and hes 100 percent postive you did not contract hiv from a handjob.i know people who get night sweats and there hiv negitive

[RainLover71]

People can get night sweats from eating hot,spicy foods--it means nothing.

[HopingForMercy]

Yeah, ive been to my family doctor a couple times and have been diagnosed with nothing but the problems persist. I did make out with this chick pretty hardcore and she did bite my lip playfully at one point.  Thats the only other thing that i can think of. But, ill have to figure it out, thanks. Might be time to go to a new doctor.

[HopingForMercy]

I have one more question?  If you had an active break out of Genital Herpes during an immediate hand job with Vaginal fluids from fingering, would this pose a risk. Because i read 80percent of hiv transmission envolves genital herpes.

[Teak]

No it would not have posed a risk.

HIV is unable to reproduce outside its living host (unlike many bacteria or fungi, which may do so under suitable conditions), except under laboratory conditions; therefore, it does not spread or maintain infectiousness outside its host.

HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug abusers
Mother to child

[HopingForMercy]

Well i just searched the web and basically read that hiv dies rapidly once outside the body but survives for an unknown amount of time, until it dries.(read it on thebody) As well as other sites that say fluids can make any safe sex activity unsafe. And my activity was basically  intentionally wiping fingered fluids into my urethra as the handjob was mainly on the top of the penis head seconds after i took my finger out of her vagina within ten seconds she wiped my fingers clean and did that. So basically its my own fault but based on my severe symptoms that are prototypical acute hiv symptoms, the fact im 99.9 percent sure she has hiv. I honestly think im the one who will break this trend. This will be my last post till i get my 6 week results in two weeks. And if you guys are correct, you guys are my heroes.  If not it is what it is and ill do my best to live with it. And im not trying to argue that 99.999 percent of the time what ur saying is true but i know my body and i know im screwed, still hoping though.

[Teak]

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[LIZZIE LOU]

transmission takes place when a penis is inside a vagina / anus.

you have been assessed as not having a risk from what you described.  kindly move along.

[marsfXxf]

my brother listen to these guys, they are serious with us. i have the same problem, all ur symptoms, read my blog and read my exposure. i won't tell u much but i pleased u to relax as we have a long way to go. plz cool urself down and listen to their said.