cunnilingus exposure

[krls123help]

Well, a year ago I went to a licensed brothel and had sex with a CSW while I was drunk. That same night i was smoking a roll cigarette and burned slightly my neck in the inside part. I also have bleeding gums that were bleeding about 3h before everyting happened. (sorry for my english, i'm from spain).

I went to had sex with the CSW, she undressed, and we took a shower where she cleaned her vagina and then we had sex. She performed protected oral on me, however i did performed brief cunnilingus (about 2-3 minutes) when she was on top of me. She didn't felt really wet. Then we had protected vaginal intercourse.

This happened a year ago and for some reason I am really worried now that it's been a year since it happened.

I am at risk of having HIV? I don't remember having symptoms a few weeks after this happened, however i'm really concerned knowing that I had a cigarette burn in my mouth and that my gums bled like 3 hours before the sex happened.

Thanks.

[krls123help]

Please i need help i'm really scared and i forgot to mention that I have a new girlfriend and we started having unprotected sex (she is HIV neg). I would be devastated if I passed HIV to her. Please help me.

[krls123help]

I must add that the symptoms I've had during this year were:

- Hair fall
- Diarrhea
- Oral thrust
- Sore throat

[AnxiousNoMore]

You had no risk and testing will be a waste of time.   Can't get HIV when you use a condom.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make any of your encounter a risk for HIV.  No one in 40 years of HIV history got HIV from the situation you are concerned about so it is unlikely that it will happen in the next 40 of your lifetime either.

[krls123help]

Hey, thanks for thr response. I've been reading some similar posts, however i found a few pages that say that there is a minimal risk of HIV transmission with bleeding gums or sores. Why they say that if you are saying that I dont had an exposure?

[AnxiousNoMore]

We rely on the opinion of expert doctors so I gave their advice. Whatever posts you read aren't on this forum, except from people who come here mistakenly thinking they had a risk.

[krls123help]

Would you consider testing? I'm really scared even with what you're telling me.

[CurfewX]

No expert in the field would recommend testing for this no-risk exposure.

[krls123help]

I've been looking for some information in Internet and it's saying that bleeding gums increase the risk. It means bleeding gums during the sex act or bleeding gums that bled 3 hours ago? Also i heard escorts (fairly high priced prostitutes) don't have HIV. Is this true?

[CurfewX]

It is almost entirely a theoretical risk.  The amount of blood that would need to be present - yours and hers - would preclude you from having oral sex.  No comment about prostitutes.  It doesn't matter - you had NO RISK.  

Test or don't test - that's your choice.  But there's nothing more for us to tell you without going around in circles.

[krls123help]

Ok, i contacted with the escort brothel and they say me that they are clean. With this information and yours I should move on and not care? I just don't want to be the unluckiest person ever for getting HIV this way.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

As you were advised, you had no risk for HIV.  There isn't anything our members can add to this assessment, and as noted, the choice whether to test for a no-risk event is yours alone.

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