Unpretected sex, symptoms and risk

[MaryJane87]

Hello everyone. I'm very scared. In fact I've been scared for more than a year now. A year ago I had a brief relationship with a guy of unknown HIV status. We broke up because he was dating 4 girls at the same time. When I found out about this I was also told by one of his exes that he frequently has sex with prostitutes. I feel like an idiot for having dated this guy, but back then I had no idea...
Now the facts. I asked him about his HIV status, he said it was negative (I have no doubt he could have lied about it). We had unprotected sex about 3 times, and one of those times he tried to have anal sex with me. I never had anal sex before and the whole thing was a communication problem I guess, I didn't want it but he misenterpreted it and ended up inserting his penis, but only for a few seconds before I told him to stop.
About 2 weeks later I had flu-like symptoms and a very bad headache that lasted for 3 days (I never have headaches). Then about 3 months later I had a rash that lasted for 4 days (not HIV-looking rash though).
My fear is mostly that the brief episode of anal sex could have opened some kind of wound that would make it easier for me to contract HIV? I know everyone is going to tell me to get tested ASAP, but I'm terrified. I'm planning on getting tested next month but I would like to know if my risk is high. I've been reading questions here on the forum and they all seem so low-risk compared to mine... Thanks.

[alexqqq]

Hi.  
I am no expert.  I am here because of one of those (hoping like crazy) almost zero risk exposure. Simply wanted to give you some support.

I think the odds are still good that you will be ok.  Vaginal sex is 1/1000 and they say anal sex is 1/200.  Meaning not everytime (in fact a lot of the time) one has unprotected anal or vaginal you will not become infected.  And your ex-boyfriend might be telling the truth on his hiv status and is in fact hiv negative.  We don't know. Symptoms don't mean much they say (I say this even though I am constantly looking and poking myself).

As Lizzie Lou stated you did have a real risk and do need to get tested.  

I recommend you get tested soon and not wait till next month.  They have tests that give results in 20 minutes.  I understand you are terrified.  Most of the posters here are.  But the mental anguish is tough and will not change the outcome.  Why be in mental angusih over the uncertainty, punishing yourself over and over.  Overcome your fear and get it done soon, don't prolong the agony.  The odds are in your favor you will come out of this unscathed.  I am pulling for you.  

[LIZZIE LOU]

bottom line (no pun intended) is a risk is a risk.  having unprotected sex...vaginally or anally...sets one up for the potential to contract hiv.

as you know...only a test will determine your status.