oral sex

[wildstar]

Just wanna ask if you can get hiv in oral sex??
i am bisexual,i only had 3 experience with a guy, we didint engage in anal sex. purely oral sex and i didnt swallow the ejaculation material. can i still get hiv from that?

[lookin4answers80]

My personal opinion is still that you don't need to get tested from one oral sex episode with a guy. I have had oral sex with a lot - a whole lot - more men than you. Enough to where I won't even hazard a guess at a number. I have never used a condom for oral sex. And my routine tests keep right on coming back negative.

[Sadandregretful]

That´s a relief. There´s always the possibility, of course, that "wilstar" or me will be the exception (LOL).

But, in a more serious vein, if you believe there are risks involved (your first post above indicates you do), why do you do it without protection? Don´t you blame yourself, afterwards? I was totally unaware of the risk and learning about it after the fact came as a shock to me. It´s been difficult just getting up from bed.

But, naturally, there are other issues at stake in my case (first time; "how could I?";  what would my friends - all exclusively straight - think if they knew; "why did I do it if it´s not my scene" etc...), which provoke a strong sense of guilt.  

[lookin4answers80]

In my own case, it's like with any behavior. It's an issue of weighing probability vs. reward, I guess. Every time I get in my car, I know I could have an accident and die. But driving is faster than walking, and the bus takes too long, so I drive. But I take appropriate safety measures. I wear a seat belt, drive at a reasonable rate of speed, use my turn signals and mirrors, etc. Every time I play a sport or work out, I could get injured. But I enjoy playing and want to get into better shape, so I feel the benefit outweighs the risk. But I still take necessary precautions. With oral sex, it's the same thing. Sure, I could contract HIV from oral sex, although the odds are probably less than my dying in a car accident this year or injuring myself seriously lifting weights. But I personally don't like the taste of latex, even flavored latex, and I doubt that it's as enjoyable receiving oral sex with a condom. So I don't use one, but I take steps to lower my risk. Since my gums often bleed, I don't brush my teeth before oral sex. I use a breath mint or mouthwash instead. I spit out precum. I don't let guys ejaculate into my mouth. Could I still catch HIV this way? Yeah, I guess I technically could, although the odds are tiny. But I could also die in a car crash every time I get behind the wheel.

When it comes to anal sex, I see it totally differently. Yes, it feels better without a condom, but I believe that the risk here is high enough to where I feel that it's more than worth the trouble to wear a condom (other than during the two drunken encounters that led to my obsessively posting here). So it's always a matter of weighing risk vs. benefits, like with any other activity we take in life, whether it be driving, playing sports, gambling, playing the stock market, flying in an airplane, or having oral sex.

[FWK]

Hi guys,

That is exactly what I was telling other people here, that oral sex is a risk.....I don't do it much but I did but never let a person ejaculate because sometiems I had sores or bleeding gums and only did it for like 5 sec.

Anyway I do anal but using a condom both ways....I am too scared to test and been 3 months since my last encounter...they always tell me I had no HIV exposure because my friend used a condom though I know they are wrong....it can happen nothing is perfect....

Thanks anyway guys at least people agree that there is a risk in oral......
anyway I still won't test....I rather die not knowing...

Take care and good luck

[lookin4answers80]

That is just silly. If you think you have had a risk, you should test. I do not think your risk has been substantial. In fact, it has been very low. You completely misunderstood my posts. Just because there is a risk - technically - with oral sex does not mean you have or will catch it that way. There are many levels of risk, and oral is at the very low end of the spectrum. Stop freaking out over a few unprotected oral encounters. The odds of your having HIV are ridiculously low. Why keep being worried about it when you can get a test and put your mind at ease in 20 minutes?

[Sadandregretful]

Meanwhile, I still have a sore throat. It started right after the oral, 9 days ago. Never went away. My results from the STD test won´t come out until next Monday. I´m convinced I have gonorrhea. Slight symptoms of flu also beginning to appear, which means that if they develop, I´ll have them in full two weeks after the oral. I´ll be able to convince myself they are symptoms of primary HIV infection.

Reading several posts on HIV in this forum, I realize there is a high incidence of "symptoms" of STD or HIV after unprotected sex amongst members of the forum. Basically, nearly all of those who write complain of symptoms. Could this be purely psychological? Does guilt after reckless behavior convince you that you "caught it"?

I´ll be crushed by fear until I test. FWK, you should test, really, if the time is right for you.