Still very worried

[omar595]

Hey guys I've already posted a couple times and been told I had a low risk but the stress has really been getting to me. I got tested for the common STDs at the 27th day post exposure and evrything came back negative! then I started to worry about HIV as I can feel little lumps under my skin in the groin area which I presume are lymph nodes, I then took a 4th generation test at 30 days and it came back negative. My issue is that the nurse advised me to wait until the 8th week for reliable results. Was she being conservative? Is my 4th genration test reliable at 30 days?
Could really use some advice! (Was tested in the Netherlands btw)

[CurfewX]

If your event was the protected sex events you have been posting about in STDs, you didn't have low risk - you had NO risk for HIV.  There isn't any information you can add to your protected encounter that would make it a risk for HIV, as you stated the condoms did not visibly break.

Any test you take will be conclusive - and negative - since you did not have any risk for HIV.  

[omar595]

Hey CurfewX,
Thanks a lot for the answer and I'm really sorry to keep coming back to this exposure and I know it really annoys everyone in the forum. Truth is I've never been in such situation and starting to realise that sexual education should really be enhanced in schools. As for my exposure Im just super worried that the condom slipped during the encounter as i do not remember taking it off.
Nonetheless, I am really curious about the reliability of the 4th generation test at the 1 month mark, some say none others say 95% others 99%, and its got me very confused?

[CurfewX]

As long as the condom covered the head of your penis during penetration - which it did, or it would have come off entirely - you had zero risk for HIV.  I'm not going to feed your anxiety by addressing irrelevant testing questions, pretending you had any reason to test at all, when you did not.

[omar595]

hey CurfewX,

You seem like your quite on top of it seeing your previous posts, maybe the anxiety is just getting the best of me, I think Im just very scared and thought id get some comfort here, sorry to have bothered you, keep up the great forum

[CurfewX]

You didn't bother me.  I've just found that people who test following a ZERO risk exposure are only prolonging the anxiety, wondering if the test is conclusive, or if they took the right test, etc.  All of this is completely unnecessary - it's better to simply work on accepting the fact that you did not have a risk at all.

[omar595]

Thanks a lot for the advice curfewX!! I do think you are right and i feel there is a lot of us in this forum that are dealing with this anxiety. And i am making it so much worse for myself with all these horrible "what if" thoughts, im definetly going to try to deal with this stress and anxiety! Thanks a lot

[AnxiousNoMore]

Just focus on this part because it proves there can't be any what-ifs.
"- which it did, or it would have come off entirely -"

[Sotiredoffeelingtired]

You are hiv negative so stop worrying and enjoy life.

[omar595]

Thanks guys really helps !! Gna try to move on from this horrible past month !! Keep up the good forum