Aa
unprotected oral (giving)
I am currently dealing with extreme anxiety, and I would appreciate some advice. I had unprotected oral sex with a guy, it was brief, and there was no ejaculation. Approximately a week later, I had protected sex with the same person, and it was quite rough, I learned this person has a promiscuous lifestyle and is also a liar, I became very worried, then I started PEP. (PEP doesn't provide protection against unprotected oral since that was a week ago). Since starting the medication, I have been experiencing symptoms such as nausea, dizziness, and extreme fatigue, but what really worries me is that I am having a fever and an itchy throat. Is that the first sign of HIV infection?
It's very VERY odd that any doctor gave into your request for PEP. It was not called for and you didn't meet the criteria. That is reserved for people not just with an actual risk (you didn't have one) but ONLY for people who had a risk with someone known to have HIV. Stop pep. You don't need it and it is a toxic drug. THAT is what is likely causing you to feel so bad. The only risks for HIV are to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or to share IV needles to inject drugs. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. You had zero risk for hiv
9 Comments
he sent me a fake test result (through his own email, and all ******** excuses that he can't find the original document) and wouldn't go test with me, so I guess I am trying to take the PEP for a peace of mind
Since you didn't answer the QUESTION, I'll do it for you. Answer> No there wasn't a penis in my anus and he didn't needle inject me so I had no risk and should move on, instead of wasting my own time searching for irrelevant missing documents. If you can't move on, see a mental health therapist so you can lead a normal life again.
thanks for reassuring me again, but I am indeed experiencing a fever, maybe its the side effect of PEP, I will consider stopping it.
The PEP is a placebo. There is nothing left to advise you.
Even if you have any illness, it has nothing to do with hiv. This is just an hiv prevention forum, not a fever diagnostic centre, and you didn't have a risk for hiv.
Since you posted to my comment, *I* will respond. I don't think it is the right wording that pep is placebo effect. You are having side effects from it most likely. It's a toxic, hard to take medication. Doctors are not supposed to give it unless someone had true exposure with a known HIV positive person. You had no risk. We will not keep reassuring you of this. Your anxiety is causing you to be irrational. Our reassuring you over and over make it worse. Talk to your doctor about stopping pep. And get some help with your anxiety disorder. That's the advice we are trying to give you. You had no risk from hiv.
Thank you both a lot for having the patience answering my questions, yes I will meet with the doctor and discuss about stopping PEP.
I meant the PEP serves no purpose other than a placebo, since there is no possibility of disease.
At this point, it's a good idea. I think a lot of your 'symptom's' may resolve when you do. You had no risk of HIV and that is what you need to focus on.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (hand, fluids, maybe blood, cuts, mouth, etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus. You can't get hiv when you use a condom, and if it failed it would rip wide open down the seam so that didn't happen.
Your worries should stop now. You should stop wasting your time (and possible health side effect ) taking the PEP.
This is not a fever, PEP side effect, or itchy throat forum and fwiw, you didn't even take your temp, so those problems are likely just in your imagination.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus. You can't get hiv when you use a condom, and if it failed it would rip wide open down the seam so that didn't happen.
Your worries should stop now. You should stop wasting your time (and possible health side effect ) taking the PEP.
This is not a fever, PEP side effect, or itchy throat forum and fwiw, you didn't even take your temp, so those problems are likely just in your imagination.
2 Comments
The doctor probably didn't want to listen to your anxiety anymore so he prescribed PEP to get you out of his office. It is just a placebo since you had no risk. The other person's lifestyle and lying is irrelevant.
The detailed reply made me feel so much better, I really appreciate it!
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the HIV Prevention Community
Condoms are the most effective way to prevent HIV and STDs.
PrEP is used by people with high risk to prevent HIV infection.
Can I get HIV from surfaces, like toilet seats?
Can you get HIV from casual contact, like hugging?
Frequency of HIV testing depends on your risk.
Post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) may help prevent HIV infection.
