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SVR (Do i Tell or Not)
Heres a good one...if we do get SVR....should we tell new lovers that we did have the virus but are now cured...im thinkn there is no point...i guess i just answered my own question...again
Maybe it's because I've been in a long term committed relationship for so long (and I've actually known my husband for much, much longer, like forty years), I can't imagine having casual sex with anyone. I can't imagine having sex with someone who wouldn't be interested that I've been through this whole tx. I would want them to know because it's something that happened to me, not because there's any moral obligation because there's no way they could get HCV from me.
Do you tell a new lover that you had a broken arm several years ago but now it's healed? I suppose you could if you wanted to, but it's certainly not something she needs to know.
Probably not a great analogy, above, but the idea was that while you might want to discuss it at some point, it really has no relevancy to the sexual act. a better analogy might be is there any reason to tell a potential sex partner that you had let's say gonorrhea 10 years ago and then got cured? still not a great analogy is gonorrhea is an STD and HCV is not, but then again most analogies do fall short.
Actually Jim, healed broken bones have been a topic off discussion on numerous occasions.
Many have tried to 'kiss and make it better', my many scars from broken bones/stitches/ staples, etc. (used to race motocross/jetskiis, have a big trophy cabinet along with the scars to prove it)
Trying to figure out if I get to SVR, how to get my cured hcv kissed to make it better... ?
lol
apache
Many have tried to 'kiss and make it better', my many scars from broken bones/stitches/ staples, etc. (used to race motocross/jetskiis, have a big trophy cabinet along with the scars to prove it)
Trying to figure out if I get to SVR, how to get my cured hcv kissed to make it better... ?
lol
apache
While on the topic of "should i tell"....a lot of people have gone tru numerous tx`s and kept it all to themselves even tho friends and people were wondering why, you missed work,looked like something the cat dragged in,lost your hair...SO...dont you get the urge to finally let the cat outta the bag if you SVR...just to let them all know what you went tru, hell and back...OR... just keep quiet?
"Many have tried to 'kiss and make it better', my many scars from broken bones/stitches/ staples, etc"
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If I want to be intimate with someone then I am intimate. That includes conversation about the things that matter. HCV matters to me so it would definitely come up. I wonder what types of relationships people have if they keep this stuff private.
It sounds strange to me. But, each to their. I also can't relate to asking about this on a forum. You are who you are.... I hope?
By the way - I bought a beautiful blue pinstripe suit - should I wear brown shoes or black shoes with it?
Mike
It sounds strange to me. But, each to their. I also can't relate to asking about this on a forum. You are who you are.... I hope?
By the way - I bought a beautiful blue pinstripe suit - should I wear brown shoes or black shoes with it?
Mike
MS: should I wear brown shoes or black
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I usually take mine off before I become intimate. YMMV. :)
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I usually take mine off before I become intimate. YMMV. :)
If you are ashamed of your disease, then are you really comfortable in your own skin??? Is it something to be ashamed of ?? As mentioned above about scars, our scars helped make us who we are. When we meet our maker, don't you think he will have the scars in his hands and side, for that is what made him who he is "to us" (dang...did not mean to get so serious, am usually not)
If you feel you are really CURED, then why would you not discuss your history with an intimate partner, or prospective love interest? If you had been treated for Cancer and recovered, wouldn't you expect to at least mention this at some point to a partner. Is there a reason to hide the past SVR and HCV history? I get the feeling there is more to this issue than meets the eye...like fear of someone interpreting the SVR to be more threatening than we might prefer them to....or causing someone to look at you differently.
I would want them to know me, in all aspects...IF they were becoming a true love interest, and potential long term partner. I mean...honesty is supposed to be the foundation of a relationship..is it not? Or do I sense a feeling of being still 'radioactive' in some way...or being looked at as 'maybe cured'??? Isn't it the right of a potential partner to make decisions based on real facts, including all of your current knowledge and insights on HCV cure and outcomes, etc. of course, but also on their own comfort level with your past history?
I would tend to be more open than less, just to not be looked at later as someone who tried to hide something important...for whatever reasons... It could come back to haunt you well into the relationship...and cast you in a less than admirable light.
DoubleDose
I would want them to know me, in all aspects...IF they were becoming a true love interest, and potential long term partner. I mean...honesty is supposed to be the foundation of a relationship..is it not? Or do I sense a feeling of being still 'radioactive' in some way...or being looked at as 'maybe cured'??? Isn't it the right of a potential partner to make decisions based on real facts, including all of your current knowledge and insights on HCV cure and outcomes, etc. of course, but also on their own comfort level with your past history?
I would tend to be more open than less, just to not be looked at later as someone who tried to hide something important...for whatever reasons... It could come back to haunt you well into the relationship...and cast you in a less than admirable light.
DoubleDose
On opening night, if there's time for talk at all, wouldn't there be more profound concerns than a closed chapter in your health history? For starters, I'd rather know if lover boy loves chocolate and evaluate accordingly.
Rocker started the thread about new encounters, not ongoing ones. I'm just not sure how you fit in so much conversation when h-orny s-ex is a dream within reach. Nah, let's kill that scenario and talk about when I broke my ankle in high school. That's the way to o-rgasm, I say.
Rocker started the thread about new encounters, not ongoing ones. I'm just not sure how you fit in so much conversation when h-orny s-ex is a dream within reach. Nah, let's kill that scenario and talk about when I broke my ankle in high school. That's the way to o-rgasm, I say.
Granite, If you are so grateful about having HCV then why wouldn't you share it?
Jim, I get better purchase with a good pair of shoes on and, in case you don't know, it can get rather slippery.
Smooth Mike
Jim, I get better purchase with a good pair of shoes on and, in case you don't know, it can get rather slippery.
Smooth Mike
DD: If you feel you are really CURED, then why would you not discuss your history with an intimate partner, or prospective love interest? ... If you had been treated for Cancer and recovered, wouldn't you expect to at least mention this at some point to a partner. Is there a reason to hide the past SVR and HCV history? I get the feeling there is more to this issue than meets the eye...like fear of someone interpreting the SVR to be more threatening than we might prefer them to....or causing someone to look at you differently.
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Once again, you're interjecting your bias and fears toward occult HCV into areas where they have no relevance even per HR's recent comments on implausibility of HCV transmission sexually by an SVR which would be categorized as an impossiblity by other medical experts. (see tnhepguy's recent thread)
Rockers question was about "new lovers' which is a very general category that could include anything from a year's courtship to a one-night stand. Personally, I would see no reason or responsiblity to discuss my medical history -- be it HCV or your example, "cancer" -- unless I knew a person well and long enough to share that kind of personal information, and please let's not debate the morality of how well you should know someone before sleeping with them because that belongs in another forum.
The question posed here by Rocker is responsiblity of disclosure of HCV to a new sexual partner if you're SVR -- and again, I -- and many others -- see absolutely no reason to disclose unless for some reason you want to disclose and thats fine. And yes, HCV does carry a stigma and the average lay person may not immediately understand what SVR actually means.
Personally, as an SVR, my disclosure to someone about my HCV history and status
would have nothing to do with whether or not Im sleeping with a person. There are several women who know of my history who I have not had sexual relations with and there could be several I had sexual relations with whom I did not discuss my history.
I also had gonnorhea (and crabs) when I was 20 but rarely bring that up either!
-- Jim
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Once again, you're interjecting your bias and fears toward occult HCV into areas where they have no relevance even per HR's recent comments on implausibility of HCV transmission sexually by an SVR which would be categorized as an impossiblity by other medical experts. (see tnhepguy's recent thread)
Rockers question was about "new lovers' which is a very general category that could include anything from a year's courtship to a one-night stand. Personally, I would see no reason or responsiblity to discuss my medical history -- be it HCV or your example, "cancer" -- unless I knew a person well and long enough to share that kind of personal information, and please let's not debate the morality of how well you should know someone before sleeping with them because that belongs in another forum.
The question posed here by Rocker is responsiblity of disclosure of HCV to a new sexual partner if you're SVR -- and again, I -- and many others -- see absolutely no reason to disclose unless for some reason you want to disclose and thats fine. And yes, HCV does carry a stigma and the average lay person may not immediately understand what SVR actually means.
Personally, as an SVR, my disclosure to someone about my HCV history and status
would have nothing to do with whether or not Im sleeping with a person. There are several women who know of my history who I have not had sexual relations with and there could be several I had sexual relations with whom I did not discuss my history.
I also had gonnorhea (and crabs) when I was 20 but rarely bring that up either!
-- Jim
PA: On opening night, if there's time for talk at all, wouldn't there be more profound concerns than a closed chapter in your health history? For starters, I'd rather know if lover boy loves chocolate and evaluate accordingly.
Rocker started the thread about new encounters, not ongoing ones. I'm just not sure how you fit in so much conversation when h-orny s-ex is a dream within reach. Nah, let's kill that scenario and talk about when I broke my ankle in high school. That's the way to o-rgasm, I say.
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I'm repeating what PA said, because I think she said it better. Maybe some of the married guys here have forgotten that it takes a little more than taking out the garbage at night to get a woman to sleep with you these days. LOL. Yes, a little romance is in order and a discussion on SVR somehow doesn't fit the bill .
Rocker started the thread about new encounters, not ongoing ones. I'm just not sure how you fit in so much conversation when h-orny s-ex is a dream within reach. Nah, let's kill that scenario and talk about when I broke my ankle in high school. That's the way to o-rgasm, I say.
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I'm repeating what PA said, because I think she said it better. Maybe some of the married guys here have forgotten that it takes a little more than taking out the garbage at night to get a woman to sleep with you these days. LOL. Yes, a little romance is in order and a discussion on SVR somehow doesn't fit the bill .
i was thinking the same before i started tx, i think when i meet the right one in the future, i will tell if i can trust him with my secrets
and if he really loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, then it will not matter at all. if not, then his loss
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