Did I totally Over React

[nygirl7]

My son and his friend (20) came in the house last night while I was busy making dinner etc (basically stressed to the max) and all of a sudden he is asking where my sewing kit is. I'm like what for since when do you sew? He said oh no I'm gonna pierce Jon's ears. Now I know this kid Jon is a huge pillhead and I dont know what else he does aside from that but I said no there is no way in hell you are putting needles into anybody in my bathroom - of course he couldn't understand why. I told him Look it took me years to get over hcv I dont know anything about this kid then you are going to poke holes in him, have blood droplets around and put those needles back into the kit?

He got so mad and told me that I was a crazy idiot that I wouldn't get hep again that way blah blah so we had a HUGE fight. Like seriously I almost threw him out.

I think I was more mad that once I had said why it made me uncomfortable and he didn't respect that and all I've gone through that is what got me really going.

So yes overreaction I admit but does anybody on here understand why I'd feel like that?  Would you?

It's hard being so paranoid about things but I just am. I just want to keep that one little stage of my liver that i have left and do not want to take any chances even if they are totally irrational and yes of course I know I wouldn't get it back that way..............duh................

Just feeling bad today over the argument I guess.

[meakea]

The same scenario would have occurred in my home if my son had wanted to pierce a friend's body part in my home...over my dead body!  It's not just for you and your son's safety but for the friend's too.  

My youngest son (27) is "addicted" to getting tattoos and I have the same feeling every time he gets another one..."OMG, is this the time he gets infected with HCV or something else..." and that's even though he goes to a regulated, well-known tattoo parlor.

Let him be mad.  He owes you an apology for calling his mother a crazy idiot...period.

[paen53]

I can't stand it when one of my kids and I have an all out. I always feel that something will happen to them and I'll never have the chance to say "I love you" again. But sometimes there needs to be a cooling down period for all involved. I found, for me and mine anyway, that an email helps me to express my feelings in a less confrontational way, letting me place my words out of concern rather than fear and frustration (as I always seem to do initially). Then time for them to digest it and hopefully respond in kind. It usually works for us  - at least to clear the air. My daughter is a screamer and I absolutely can't deal with it, so this is much better for both of us - she can yell and I can't hear. :-)

[annieCinMD]

You totally did NOT overreact! Boy, this brings back memories of me piercing my own ear (yes, only one...it was probably 1976 and having one side with more holes than the other was just coming into vogue) with a needle and an ice cube. Good to see you still on here, not that I thought you wouldn't be!

[mikesimon]

I don't know how to characterize your reaction.
I just know I would have reacted the same way.

Mike

[working dog]

it's funny how this forum gives us a safe place to come where we all have this hep c in common...and in that way understand and respect each other...you'll be fine and right back on track with your son soon......billy

[Mary4now]

I never did have any kids,  but I thought if I did I would duct tape them and take them to some small town somewhere and not lose sight of them until they were old enough to take care of me.  I worked as a deckhand on a ferry once and the lead deck hand was on old timer, as soon as his kids could walk they had jobs and they took care of the farm, they didn't have time to get into trouble.  I would not have made a good mother.  I would have been a dictator.  
I stand with telling your kids what to do. not the other way around