smoking addiction

[Myown]

My husband had quit cigarettes for 3 months. I thought he had quit for good, but guess what?? I found a cigarette lighter on the bed under the sheets when I got in bed the other night. I was upset that he didn't tell me, but he thought NOT telling me would be better cause I guess he figured I would never find out being he has enough control not to smoke around me in the house. He didn't want to upset me by telling me he went back to smoking, but I told him that by lying to me and saying he quit is more upsetting than hearing he is still smoking.


His parents both had cancer - mouth/ throat and both due to smoking. His father died from it and thank God his mother was cured. So thats why for the last 20 years I have been hoping he would quit and up until now, I thought he did.

Did anyone have a real hard time giving up cigarettes and knew that they needed extra help. If you did get extra help, and were able to quit, how did you do it? He'll try anything but hypnosis. He even thinks he needs to talk to a psychiatrist cause he just can't believe how he keeps going back to it - even after 3 months of not smoking. He thinks he has a harder time than anyone and I can't convince him that all ex-smokers had a hard time and you just have to resist.


I had given it up years ago on my own without using anything, so I am unable to suggest anything to him.

Any suggestions or maybe someone has gone through the same thing and took some pill or something. I remember reading a while back that there is a pill to help a person stop smoking but I forgot the name of it and I don't know if it has sx. I am upset that he lied to me, but I won't harp on that because he thought he was protecting me from added stress - thats how different men are from women,,,I would have wanted to know and hear the truth so I could help him.

well if you have any ideas please let me know. Thanks, MO

[Forseegood]

feel sick today so I haven't read this entire thread...has he tried hypnosis, along with some other things like the patch or gum, etc etc...all at the same time? sometimes addictions are so strong that you need to throw everything at them...but hypnosis is very good for addictions, I heard Robin Williams say he had tried everything to quit smoking, and hypnosis is the one that did it for him...here's a really good site, just like 8 bucks for downloads, and they are very good at what they do...they also have excellent anti-anxiety downloads, they have a download to address just about everything...

hypnosis downloads dot com   spelled all together....best of luck, I've heard junkies say heroin is easier to kick than cigs....

[Forseegood]

forgot to add, like the old saying goes, anything worth getting is worth working hard for it, and you rarely get anything worth getting without working hard for it...lol...you have to do due diligence when your listening to these hypnosis tapes, and concentrate...sometimes I've suggested them to people and they say they didn't work...I ask them how many times they listened to them and they'll say, oh,maybe 3 or 4 times...in order for them to work, at least listen to them once or twice a day, for many days...they've worked for me for a number of issues, but when I slack off they don't..you have to re-wire your thinking process and that takes time..

.just wanted to add that...best of luck!!!!!

[Lady Lauri]

I am glad you still have a husband after all these weeks tx :)...kidding!!!!

As I sit here eating my organic dinner, making organic tea and am back to Yoga after mths. not while on tx...... I am than going to light a *&%$#@# cig!
   I've battled nicotine for years! Never addicted to ANYTHING I ever tried, also stubborn, strong and so on, but these things are hell to quit :(  :(  
Being an otherwise 'health nut' most of my life! I do believe some have habit addiction, some nicotine addiction and some both. I am both and it sucks!! I will try ANYTHING that'll work. I don't even care if I get fat!

Remember that I found out I had Hep C thru an acupunturist I was sent to TO quit smoking!! Went into tx and didn't do that yet. I have a friend that said he'll even send me to Baltimore to the guy that he went to for hypnosis years ago (he quit) and/or pay for anything I'll try to quit. Guess it's time to use that!

Tell hubby keep trying :(

LL

[Lady Lauri]

Curious on the laser thing too ??
Can't they just knock us out and wake us in 2 weeks :(   ?????

LL

[FloridaMouse]

I quit with the use of Chantix.  I took chantix toward  the tail end  of m y first r ound of treatment.  by the time treatment was finished so were  the smokes.

I was smoke free within 3 weeks of starting  Chantix and took it for just over 2 months.  I was smoke free for a year on March 4.

Mouse

[Myown]

You dont tell them what you are doing, give him a peck when he walks in the door and SNIFF lol.... Ill tell him what ive done when iam sure he has stopped. I live in New Orleans and there is a place called Laser Center of LA. , they laser certain parts of your body, I forgot which, instruct you to drink plenty of h2o for a week, and the nicotine cravings leave.  They do follow up txs if needed, it really works , but he has to want to quit.
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LOL, ohhhh, so ya do the ole Inspecter Cluso,,yeah I can do that. I'll have the theme of the "Pink Panther" playing as he walks thru the door too.

Too tell you the truth, I give up. I have said as much as I could possibly have said over the years and for those that know me, the interpertation of that, is that I ran it into the ground. Now if he wants to smoke a pack of Marlboro's right in front of me while juggling 2 lit cigars in the air - go for it. I don't care. He's a neat freak and the only thing I will do is remind him he smells if I happen to smell smoke on him,that will annoy him and maybe help him give it up, but I won't ask him if he had a cigarette ever again, I'm tired of it. I'll tell him about the laser, I forgot to. I see that they do that here- over NYC. I'm just very disgusted at this point that he is smoking again but he's a big boy and if that's what he wants to do go ahead do it.

Thanks for letting me know about the laser.. MO