HSV 1/2 Worry

[anongirl9415]

Hi guys! Was asked to move my question into the HSV forum so pardon my double post Medhelp administrators!


So please don't judge me as you read this / keep an open mind as I explain what I'm going through.
So basically about 3 weekends ago now (beg of sept) I was intimate with a new sexual partner for the first time (protected sex attempt/ unprotected oral and fingering). We tried to have sex after felatio was performed but because of a bit too much whiskey he had trouble getting/staying up.
As far as I can remember there wasn't even unprotected grinding etcetera.
I haven't had sex in a long time and I was very sore/tender after it felt like he had dug his nails into me, I knew he was way too rough fingering me because I bled when he did so, it gave me a lot of difficulty peeing and wiping.
The next night I got my period for 4.5 days so I wasn't exactly checking down there for anything.
I was already a bit sick when this occurred, so I can't tell if the cold lasted longer because of primary outbreak symptoms or just because I was already ill but I was sick for about 4-5 days after the encounter.
It wasn't difficult to pee or anything after but for some reason a week after the first encounter I felt the need to look up there; when I looked there appeared to be 2 deep cuts... one looked more of an awkward oval while the other one was like a straight line, the only time they hurt was when I touched them they stung a bit as if it was an open wound.
I didn't have trouble urinating/burning symptoms or anything otherwise. My doctor was able to see last week Tuesday and she said she hopes it's just lacerations but swabbed them anyway to be better safe than sorry since she couldn't automatically assume they were herpes sores. She even prescribed a 10 day course of Valtrex which she didn't think I needed but Ive been taking them anyway with 3 days left of my supply with a follow up appointment Weds to figure out my results, but at this point I've decided that I have it and try to work past it mentally and emotionally.

I've been fairly emotionally distraught since, a lot of crying and anxiety (which I already suffer from) but I'm worried and I just felt maybe someone here could help me and explain the odds of it being anything else and everything I should know about the virus. I'm just torn because I'm so careful and I can't believe I may have to live with this for the rest of my life.

I'm such a healthy and vibrant person and feel like it's slowly draining from me because it's all I think about. ... I just don't feel like myself the more and more it's on my mind.
How would I tell him that he gave me this if that's the case (he's an athlete and I don't want him thinking it's okay to tell anyone and everyone what I'm going through) or disclose to future partners?
Will I have to take medication forever?


I talked to him a few days after realizing what's happening, he wanted to assure me that he always wears condoms (even though i know herpes can be passed skin to skin contact) and has never shown any symptoms from STDS (I tried to explain to him people can be asymptomatic) but he is now avoiding me since so now I'm waiting patiently for word from the doctor.

Please help!

[anongirl9415]

Hi Life

Thank you for the feedback. I'm hoping you are right :/
I've actually just received a call back from my doctors office and been told to come in to speak with a nurse.
Very worried but I know I have to go in and will be more informed of what's happening when I go in today.
Hoping for the best.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, what your describing is not suggestive of herpes as are not white and most often appear as a blister type sore. If he did not have any genital sores in his pubic area at the time, your risk is close to zero that you just contracted herpes.
Those most at risk are in long term mono relationships where one partner is infected. Really nothing to be overly concerned about.