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Cure for Herpes
How close are we to finding a cure for herpes? ANYONE?...
Thanks alot. I never intended to NOT talk about it, I was just curious as to 'when', and by that I mean.. mention it as soon as he says 'you're pretty, let's go out' or wait until the 'awww man, you're awesome, and I wanna hang around a lot more'. LOL This is crazy! The worst thing I've ever had to tell a potential boyfriend or 'dater' prior to this is that 'i am always sleepy/tired due to long school hours' LOL *sigh* I dont' know... maybe now that I'm older and I'll HOPEFULLY meet some older guys now that they are a bit more mature and can actually handle a situation like this.. .who knows... but thanks!
Some people tell before they even meet someone ( put it on their personal ad for instance ) . Others tell on the first date and others wait MONTHS before telling. And let's be realistic here - probably many folks just aren't telling in general unless they HAVE to. I encourage folks to talk about all std's before sex ( include condom use and birth control in that conversation too - important topics you want to cover BEFORE your partner doesn't use a condom or before your partner tells you her period is late and she's not on the pill!!!! ). During the course of the conversation ask if they are tested regularly and if they are willing to get tested. then talk about what you know you have and how you are willing to reduce a partners risk of contracting it from you. I suggest doing this before you are naked in bed together after some intense foreplay and you are both hoping things go further.
I personally wait and talk about it around the time we are starting to make out like teenagers. sometimes this is the first date ( or if it's a sex on the first date kinda thing of course then I bring it up on the first date! ) and sometimes it's several weeks into things. I don't think it's ever been more than a month but I tend to move fast into the bedroom whenever I can...he he he I found out long ago the hard way that it's far, far, FAR easier to talk about my herpes before sex than it is afterwards. I encourage others not to make the same mistake I did :(
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I personally wait and talk about it around the time we are starting to make out like teenagers. sometimes this is the first date ( or if it's a sex on the first date kinda thing of course then I bring it up on the first date! ) and sometimes it's several weeks into things. I don't think it's ever been more than a month but I tend to move fast into the bedroom whenever I can...he he he I found out long ago the hard way that it's far, far, FAR easier to talk about my herpes before sex than it is afterwards. I encourage others not to make the same mistake I did :(
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I let my boyfriend know before we even started going out but it was hard to do! That way if he wanted out he would have a fair chance before things got emotional. I've told a couple of guys and none of them seem grossed out and I haven't been rejected by any. It's good to be upfront, think how much they will hate you if you give it to them as a surprise! Everything will be find though keep the faith and keep living. I told my boyfriend we've been together 6 months and he just proposed to me last week. Honesty is always best.
This isnt' about a cure, but just curious to know (from people who've had herpes for a while now)... At what point do you let potenial partners know? How have you been perceived when you've elected to tell them? Did you face much rejection and scorn? Did you feel awkward your first time after diagnosis? I was diagnosed a few weeks before my 28th b-day (actually it was Nov 11...)... and I haven't been involved with anybody since then. The guy (GUY #1) who so graciously donated 'THIS' to me- we'd been involved on and off for the last 3 years... as of Nov 22...he's no where to be found (no phone responses or anything... he lives in a different state). I do have a friend (GUY #2) in the same city as me, and we've dated adn been involved a few times off and on over the past year. He's now 'attempting' to come around again. We talk about and joke about sex all the time. He's convinced that we'll have sex again, but as of right now... I dont' think so. I've just told him that i've just decided to NOT have sex... he is askign why... I KINDA wanna just tell him so he knows I'm still very much so attracted to him, but just don't want to put him at risk... (by that same token, I have nnooo idea of who he's been with or if he's STD free either though)...
Any suggestions? Comments?
Any suggestions? Comments?
I know it sucks to know that you have something that there isn't a cure for and might never be one for :( I know I'm personally just thankful that I only got herpes and not something that's more serious!! Yes my life would've been simpler if I hadn't contracted hsv2 21 years ago but it certainly has not changed for the worst in all that time. To me my herpes is a pain in the *** - literally even most times. I'd rather have a cure for cancers than I would to be rid of my herpes personally. I can at least control my herpes - can't do that for a lot of other health problems. And so I have to abstain from sex every now and then - to be honest - my partners could use the break...he he he
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This sounds bad I know but they aren't remotely close to finding a cure for herpes :( You have to keep in mind though that there isn't a cure for a single viral illness out there. We have medications to help our bodies fend them off faster but no cures. It's just not that easy when it comes to viral infections :(
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
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STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
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