Did my new partner give me herpes?

[cl1992]

So, here goes. I met a guy (33), not that his age matters I suppose, on my 22 birthday. I really liked this guy, and in fact we are still seeing each other. I slept with him on May 26 and then again throughout the entire weekend of June 5-8 many times.
Okay, so I should probably also preface this story with the fact that June 3 I had all four wisdom teeth cut out and was on amoxicillin three times a day so my immune system wasn't exactly in tip-top shape. I should also throw in that prior to this new partner I had been in a five year long relationship and have NEVER had ANY kind of problems down there.
Flash forward to around June 10, I am starting to think I have a yeast infection due to all of the antibiotics and start using some medicine to take care of that only it is not getting better. I get in the shower to immediately notice that water running over my genitals is excruciating and when I get out I look with a mirror and see that I have some small ulcerations. I figured it was a reaction to the yeast and ignored it for another day. The next day the pain was so bad that I finally went to the doctor because I was freaking out wondering if this new partner could have given me something. Of course, my results come back positive for HSV (I don't know which type) and bacterial vaginosis (gross). It has now almost healed with taking Acyclovir 800mg five times a day and then I am beginning one a day suppressive treatment.
HERE'S the question: I know the odds are good that this came from my new partner (he gets his results today) but all I can do is worry that his test will come back negative (I feel awful even saying that because I don't wish this on anyone) BUT if I somehow have carried it all of these years with no symptoms and am alone in it I will be mortified. Isn't this pretty textbook obvious (due to the symptoms and the time frame of when they showed up) that it came from him? I am going to worry myself sick until I have at least a general idea of where it came from.

[Bigtimeworried55]

Yes. You can shed the virus even when no active sores are present on the genitalia. It's why the virus is widespread as it is.

If you are both infected, obviously reinfecting each other is out the window. Moving forward, you would want to take the necessary precautions because you can spread the virus to somebody not infected. It's worth thinking about if you decide to pursue relationships outside of this individual. Antiviral therapy can be an option, as using conforms and daily suppressive therapy can decrease shedding (transmitting) pretty significantly.  

[TiminBoston]

You say your results came back positive for HSV... what kind of test?  Did the doctor take a culture (a swab or scrape) from the ulcers or was it a blood test?

I ask because if this was a new HSV infection, and I'm guessing it is, your blood would not be positive yet...not for a few more weeks, at the VERY least.  If it was a blood test, please make sure the doctor tells you which type.  If your blood is positive for type 1 (and most likely it is) that means you've had oral HSV1, which most of us have (over 65% of Americans).   That would also mean that this outbreak is almost guaranteed to be HSV2

And no, it's not common for guys to not show symptoms.  What IS VERY common is for a guy (or anyone) to experience outbreaks so slight and seemingly benign that they do not associate them with any STD (often times an outbreak can manifest as something as insignificant as an itch).

[cl1992]

Thank you for your response. I have just been so worried that I was somehow a silent carrier and it just popped up but it seems so unlikely and so textbook that it actually did come from him so I am not as worried now. It is normal for guys not to show symptoms sometimes, correct?

[Bigtimeworried55]

Based on the information provided I would high suggest  you contracted a new HSV2 infection. Indeed, this sounds textbook.

I doubt this is an HSV1 infection if oral was as described. Please make sure the test he did complete was an IGG antibody test for both types. You say recommended, but sometimes doctors diagnose patients through IGM testing and this is NOT accurate.

Make sure it's IGG and clearly typed. You have a new infection and I can assure you he is the carrier if as described.

[cl1992]

There was a brief moment of oral sex one time (less than 30 seconds), thought I feel that it was HSV2 that I was exposed to. When I received my results they were not typed so I told him to get his typed. I don't know if the lab did an IgM or IgG on him. Isn't the IgG the recommended and most likely one that he received? So it is normal that he wouldn't have shown any symptoms?

Sorry for all of the questions and thank you so much for your help!

[Fleetwood20]

I would suggest the chances of you just being infected are very, very high. I have almost no doubts he will test positive for HSV. It is textbook.

Was there plenty of oral sex involved here? If so then HSV1 is a big chance given how common it is.

It is responsible of him to test and share results with you, good for him, helps with your diagnosis. Make sure though that he has IgG antibodies for HSV1 and HSV2. No other test is conclusive.