My partner and I both have genital herpes. Not sure which of us contracted it first, but we got married 6 months after the diagnosis and I did get pregnant. I have it and can never get rid of it. I'm not sure how your spouse feels about this, but she may end up getting it because of viral shedding in your attempts to get pregnant. Are you on a suppressant to lessen your risk of outbreak?
I'm primarily concerned during the attempts to get pregnant. Other times for fun;-) would be done with a condom.
I'm sure there are .... but continued unprotected sex is likely to transmit the virus at some point in the future ..... Suppressive Therapy and avoiding sex during an outbreak will lessen the risk but it is not any guarantee that it will not be transmitted in time .....
Daisy